My wedding vows - am i doing it right?

I love it! Usually the personal vows replace the formal ones, although some people choose to do both. The only thing is heard should be spelled hard. This is definitely beautiful and special and it’ll be wonderful on Saturday. I know he’ll love it.

Hey! I'm trying to learn Italian! So I know how hard it can be. first of all, this is great, you should be really proud. I think it's really lovely and very emotional. But, I know how important this is, so I have some suggestions. I've edited it slightly, and put my reasons at the bottom.

"Life surprised us (1) and all of a sudden we were living our biggest adventure. Some days were really hard, but somehow that made us stronger and we always knew that it was worth the fight. We've been shown how resilient love is (2) and I promise to never forget this precious lesson. (3)

In you I've found my rock and you soon became the man that I want to spend the rest of my life with. There is so much about you that I find to be extraordinary, but it's for the little things that I truly love you, including all of the weird ones.

I promise to always appreciate and cherish the simplicity of our relationship.
And I promise to care for you and to be by your side, no matter what. Especially when things get hard, like when we ran out of chocolate or when a pandemic forces all of the sushi restaurants to close to the public: or when you ask for a back rub in the middle of the night.
But above all, I promise to always believe in us and to never stop trying, never stop doing my best to keep building the home and family we have both waited so long for. I love you. (4)"
1- take out "unexpectedly", a surprise is by definition unexpected.2- you might want to have "is" instead of "can be", because it's stronger, it's more declarative. 3- since I changed "can be" to "is", I needed toChange this too 4- I'm suggesting saying "I love you" at the end because it's a good way to finish the speech. You want everyone to know you are done (I assume) you don't want to just trail off .
But honestly, these are all very minor, and more akin to creative writing tips (I'm a writer) rather than language learning tips. I think it's very sweet, and I'm sure he will love it! Congratulations

This is so beautiful! I love it and it definitely sounds special! He will love it, I'm sure.

As far as the formal vows, some people chose to replace them with personally-written vows or do both. It depends on what you want. Is there a part of Italian wedding tradition you can add in? Maybe you can remove the formal vows and add the personal vows and some part of the Italian traditions?

I love them, you made them your own.

Your vows are really beautiful. Yes! This is perfectly appropriate! The point of writing your vows is to make it your own so they can be very similar to "richer for poorer" vows or totally goofy depending on the personalities of the couple!

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Holly, this is awesome, thank you!! And thank you for taking the time to read and improve my little composition.

I think you are right with all of your suggestions, it sounds definitely better that way.
I also changed the last words into "home and family we longed so much for" as I didn't like how it was before, but yesterday I couldn't think of any other words.

It's tricky for me because no matter how hard I try to avoid it, I tend to use Italian constructions, which sound different in English... But I don't have a real sense for that yet, so I just write, hoping to produce something decent.

As for you learning Italian, that's great! For some reason it always makes me happy to know that somebody is learning my language.
Actually I had to learn it from scratch myself as I was born in Russia and I moved to Italy when I was a kid. What a struggle that was! I remember spending countless hours on stuff like tenses - all of which seemed excessively complicated...
And now Italian is my first language!
As for Russian, as nobody speaks it in my family, I basically forgot it. Funny, huh?
Anyway, should you need any help with Italian, text me! I'd be glad to help.

Thank you all so much, girls!

Our wedding is really small (it's basically the two of us and a couple of friends)... Because of the pandemic we couldn't do almost anything.But I still wanted to make it as special as possible... Even without all of the fancy stuff and a big crowd, it's still our big day and I think that it's important for vows to be truly meaningful and well spoken.
The thing is that my husband to be is really, really good at writing and I'm sure that he'll come up with something beautiful that will make me cry.
For once, I'd like to do the same for him... I'm not sure that I achieved that goal, but I definitely feel more confided about my vows now. And you all helped me a lot. Thank you again!!