My wedding sent two people to the hospital

Unfortunately, covid is a major part of our lives right now and, despite the many precautions taken, nothing will make it 100% avoidable. So, don’t feel bad. However if someone attended your wedding knowing they were sick, then THEY should feel terrible. Also each of your guests had the choice to attend this group event or not during a pandemic. You didn’t force them to be there. It’s my belief that individuals need to make the best decisions for themselves regarding covid based on their health, vaccination status, comfort, etc. All of us know the risks we take when we’re in group settings, especially indoors. So definitely don’t carry that burden.

This is not your fault. Your guests knew the risks and made the decision to attend anyway. We have reached a point where it is impossible to totally avoid all infection. Like the flu, people just have to decide for themselves what they are and aren't comfortable with. I'm sure you followed health guidelines and did what you could to protect your guests. (I agree with the above that if someone knowingly went after testing positive, that is 100% on them, not you.) Hoping they recover. Take care of yourself in the meantime and don't be constantly texting/messaging those family members for a while if it's going to stress you out.

It’s not your fault. People come in contact with it everyday without knowing. It’s entirely possible and likely that they contracted it elsewhere and it coincided with your wedding unfortunately. It’s out of your hands and if you took plenty of precautions on your end, you aren’t to blame at all. Experts have said recently that it’s not going anywhere so we have to learn to live with it. Your feelings are valid and it’s ok to cry if you need to.

The other hard thing is that there could have been someone at your wedding who was asymptomatic, so even if they didn't test positive/didn't think they needed to even get tested, they could have unknowingly spread it.

Yeah, absolutely not your fault. We've all been living with this for almost 2 years now and we know a lot about how to protect ourselves, so everyone who attended made an informed choice about the risks. You were also in a really crappy spot with the omicron variant showing up on the scene right before your wedding and changing the game on us a bit - I'd unfortunately be shocked if most weddings in December didn't generate a few COVID cases just because of how quickly and easily it seems to be spreading right now. It's not you, it's just this stupid virus and its unpredictable behavior.

P.S. I really hope your husband's family members are OK and that the two of you and all your other guests recover quickly too. I know this can be really scary, especially the hospitalizations. I'm sure they are in good hands.

BTW a friend of mine went to an outdoor wedding sometime this summer when tons of people were newly vaccinated - over half the guests at that wedding got COVID, including the bride and groom, even though it should've been super COVID-safe. Sometimes this virus just does whatever it wants to do because it's a complete a-hole. I hope you stop feeling guilty about it soon because it is so not your fault.

This is my worst fear! I am planning on rapid testing all guests - even this isn't 100 percent but did you guys do this? I am curious how effective it will be. I hope your family is ok- I too would feel responsible if I were you even as everyone else says- people could have opted not to attend.

I’m so sorry. Timing is awful. The guests had their choice whether to attend or not. I keep hearing more and more people I know getting sick. This is crazy.
Sending out save the dates this week and feel people are going to be like…yeah sure we’ll pass. Although it’s 6 months away. Ugh.

View Quoted Comment I did rapid and pcr testing for my June wedding and or vaccinations. But now I would Consider pcr tests only as rapid tests can miss a lot of infection since viral load needs to be higher to detect. If people are newly infected it won’t detect. Many people are testing negative for days in a row on rapids before finally getting a positive and those asymptomatic may not produce high enough levels at any point but can still spread the virus.

View Quoted Comment Great point - my fiancé wants people to test before so I added PCR to the language.. maybe I’ll include links to the county pages in my state that will do free PCR tests via mail. Thanks for pointing that out!