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Expert September 2019

My wedding planner ruined my surprise for my fiancé...

Jordan, on August 23, 2019 at 5:21 PM Posted in Planning 0 16

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Today we went to meet our day of planner. I’ve been working with her for a couple of weeks now but we hadn’t met.

A couple of weeks ago, she sent me a timeline with the surprise included. I removed the surprise and sent it back to her. Today she showed up with the original timeline, including the surprise HIGHLIGHTED IN YELLOW. My fiancé saw it and she later confirmed it by asking about it.

I don't know what what to do y’all. Like, we are both heartbroken. I can’t fire her with only 36 days to go, right? Is it too late to find a new one? What would y’all do?

For those who will ask: the surprise was that I hired the Philadelphia Eagles Pep Band to perform at the reception.

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Latest activity by Rebecca, on August 24, 2019 at 2:05 AM

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Caytlyn · on August 23, 2019 at 5:35 PM
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It’s likely too late. Do you have a contract? Even if you can find someone else, do you really want to give up your deposit or whatever you’ve already paid her?
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Jordan · on August 23, 2019 at 5:39 PM
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I paid her a deposit but not in full. I’m less concerned about the money and more concerned about her competence. This has been a huge secret that I’ve been keeping from him for 5 months and she ruined it within 7 minutes.
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Laura · on August 23, 2019 at 5:40 PM
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Other than removing it from the timeline did you tell her it was a surprise? I'm sorry she did that. I hate people who ruin stuff for others
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Jordan · on August 23, 2019 at 5:41 PM
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Yes! I told her multiple times that it was a surprise. I’m so devastated!
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Laura · on August 23, 2019 at 5:43 PM
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I would be too. I'm so sorry. You must be a better person that I am, because I would have lost it on her. I'm generally nice, but something like that would bring out my inner WITCH with a B
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Shay · on August 23, 2019 at 5:47 PM
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Damn! Sorry you had to go through that,now you have to go a little bit above just having them there,how about seeing if the band would let him chime in on a song or two with them...
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Allie · on August 23, 2019 at 5:48 PM
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That really sucks but I wouldn't hire a new one with 36 days to go? What kind of support is she providing the week and day of the wedding?
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Casey · on August 23, 2019 at 6:34 PM
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Did you discuss this with her since? You said she knew it was a surprise but how did you react when it got spoiled? Have you brought it up since? I'd say what you do next may be based on how she reacts to you explaining how devastated and upset you are. Also, you may not be snore to find someone this late, even if you're willing to lose the deposit (and depending on contract you may owe more or even the full amount this close to the event..)

I'm sorry, this is a bummer.
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Jeanie · on August 23, 2019 at 7:02 PM
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I would definitely talk to her and ask why she ruined the surprise. It may have been an honest mistake. If this is the only problem you’ve had with her, I wouldn’t fire her. I would make sure you go over every detail with a fine tooth comb though, and reiterate multiple times how unhappy you are with her lapse. Unfortunately the surprise is ruined, and changing planners this close to your wedding day isn’t going to fix that, but would add more stress. I imagine your fiancé was still surprised, even if it wasn’t the way you wanted.
PS - Go Eagles!
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Kelly · on August 23, 2019 at 7:22 PM
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Sorry this isn’t a little mistake - this is terrible. This would be an amazing surprise for anyone who is an Eagles fan (fellow Philly girl - bleed green nation).
I would look through the contract & fire her. Yes, it might be a bit of bitting ur nose in spite of ur face, but to me some things are worth paying more & being a tad bit more stress & this is one of them.
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Elizabeth · on August 23, 2019 at 8:15 PM
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Unreal! So sorry that happened to you. She must have thought it being removed by you was a mistake (even though you were super clear about it). That sure sounds amazing!
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Karla · on August 23, 2019 at 8:50 PM
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I’m so sorry that happened!☹️ I hate when others don’t see things as special as the couple do. It might be too late & more of a hassle but if worst comes to worst I would just leave a bad review on all platforms of her promoting her services and spread the word how horrible and inconsiderate she is.
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Sara · on August 23, 2019 at 9:04 PM
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So sorry this happened to you! I would be very upset about my surprise being told. I wouldn’t change it personally. I had to do it but i still had 3 months before my wedding and that was stressful enough for me. I can’t imagine doing it 36 days before.
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Serena · on August 23, 2019 at 9:13 PM
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I think she should refund what you paid and do your wedding for free !! That is ridiculous and not professional .
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Lady · on August 23, 2019 at 11:00 PM
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I imagine she thought you meant a surprise from the guests (unless you specifically told her to keep in from your FI) - super annoying though. Overall, I would continue to work with her and it will be fun for your guests and your FI even though it may not be a surprise for everyone.
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Rebecca · on August 24, 2019 at 2:05 AM
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THAT IS AN AMAZING SURPRISE.
And she needs to apologize, because ruining something that important (Fly Iggles Fly) is completely unprofessional.
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