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Jordan
Expert September 2019

My wedding planner ruined my surprise for my fiancé...

Jordan, on August 23, 2019 at 5:21 PM Posted in Planning 0 16
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Today we went to meet our day of planner. I’ve been working with her for a couple of weeks now but we hadn’t met.

A couple of weeks ago, she sent me a timeline with the surprise included. I removed the surprise and sent it back to her. Today she showed up with the original timeline, including the surprise HIGHLIGHTED IN YELLOW. My fiancé saw it and she later confirmed it by asking about it.

I don't know what what to do y’all. Like, we are both heartbroken. I can’t fire her with only 36 days to go, right? Is it too late to find a new one? What would y’all do?

For those who will ask: the surprise was that I hired the Philadelphia Eagles Pep Band to perform at the reception.

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Latest activity by Rebecca, on August 24, 2019 at 2:05 AM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    It’s likely too late. Do you have a contract? Even if you can find someone else, do you really want to give up your deposit or whatever you’ve already paid her?
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  • Jordan
    Expert September 2019
    Jordan ·
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    I paid her a deposit but not in full. I’m less concerned about the money and more concerned about her competence. This has been a huge secret that I’ve been keeping from him for 5 months and she ruined it within 7 minutes.
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  • Laura
    Master October 2019
    Laura ·
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    Other than removing it from the timeline did you tell her it was a surprise? I'm sorry she did that. I hate people who ruin stuff for others

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  • Jordan
    Expert September 2019
    Jordan ·
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    Yes! I told her multiple times that it was a surprise. I’m so devastated!
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  • Laura
    Master October 2019
    Laura ·
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    I would be too. I'm so sorry. You must be a better person that I am, because I would have lost it on her. I'm generally nice, but something like that would bring out my inner WITCH with a B

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  • Shay
    Expert April 2024
    Shay ·
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    Damn! Sorry you had to go through that,now you have to go a little bit above just having them there,how about seeing if the band would let him chime in on a song or two with them...
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  • Allie
    Master August 2019
    Allie ·
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    That really sucks but I wouldn't hire a new one with 36 days to go? What kind of support is she providing the week and day of the wedding?

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  • C
    Super December 2021
    Casey ·
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    Did you discuss this with her since? You said she knew it was a surprise but how did you react when it got spoiled? Have you brought it up since? I'd say what you do next may be based on how she reacts to you explaining how devastated and upset you are. Also, you may not be snore to find someone this late, even if you're willing to lose the deposit (and depending on contract you may owe more or even the full amount this close to the event..)

    I'm sorry, this is a bummer. Smiley sad
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  • Jeanie
    Super February 2020
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    I would definitely talk to her and ask why she ruined the surprise. It may have been an honest mistake. If this is the only problem you’ve had with her, I wouldn’t fire her. I would make sure you go over every detail with a fine tooth comb though, and reiterate multiple times how unhappy you are with her lapse. Unfortunately the surprise is ruined, and changing planners this close to your wedding day isn’t going to fix that, but would add more stress. I imagine your fiancé was still surprised, even if it wasn’t the way you wanted.
    PS - Go Eagles!
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  • Kelly
    Super October 2019
    Kelly ·
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    Sorry this isn’t a little mistake - this is terrible. This would be an amazing surprise for anyone who is an Eagles fan (fellow Philly girl - bleed green nation).
    I would look through the contract & fire her. Yes, it might be a bit of bitting ur nose in spite of ur face, but to me some things are worth paying more & being a tad bit more stress & this is one of them.
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  • Elizabeth
    Dedicated July 2020
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    Unreal! So sorry that happened to you. She must have thought it being removed by you was a mistake (even though you were super clear about it). That sure sounds amazing!
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  • Karla
    Dedicated July 2021
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    I’m so sorry that happened!☹️ I hate when others don’t see things as special as the couple do. It might be too late & more of a hassle but if worst comes to worst I would just leave a bad review on all platforms of her promoting her services and spread the word how horrible and inconsiderate she is.
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  • Sara
    Expert October 2019
    Sara ·
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    So sorry this happened to you! I would be very upset about my surprise being told. I wouldn’t change it personally. I had to do it but i still had 3 months before my wedding and that was stressful enough for me. I can’t imagine doing it 36 days before.
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  • S
    Beginner February 2019
    Serena ·
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    I think she should refund what you paid and do your wedding for free !! That is ridiculous and not professional .
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  • L
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    I imagine she thought you meant a surprise from the guests (unless you specifically told her to keep in from your FI) - super annoying though. Overall, I would continue to work with her and it will be fun for your guests and your FI even though it may not be a surprise for everyone.

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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    THAT IS AN AMAZING SURPRISE.

    And she needs to apologize, because ruining something that important (Fly Iggles Fly) is completely unprofessional.

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