My wedding is on my Niece's Birthday

I have been to a wedding where the bride's cousin had a birthday that day. She had the DJ acknowledge it, everyone sang, and that was that. I think that it would be nice to do something small, especially since she is your flower girl and you still love your birthdays when you are that young. Maybe you could even just get a candle for her piece of cake for her? There are plenty of different ideas out there, but I would definatelty do something small.

Alright. That sounds like a good idea, he wanted to do a big thing with her own cake and gifts and I was just like "no" since only half of the guests are her family. But I like the idea of the DJ doing something and a special piece of cake for her

I agree with doing something small, I mean she is young so I think at that age all they can think about is that it is their bday. I think having the DJ acknowledge it and maybe everyone singing will be perfect and then you can continue on with your day. but i dont think gifts are necessary.

You can't expect a 5yo to understand when you tell her "today is my day" she is just a little girl, she is going to be sad. Unless you had this date picked out before she was born, you're technically getting married on her day. I am getting married the day after FH's grandmas bday and the day before my grandmas bday, and we are going to get them individual cakes with a candle in each and have everyone sing happy birthday and maybe even have a dance for them. Yes I know, birthdays come once a year and a wedding comes once in your life, but when you plan your wedding for the same day or close to a family members birthday, you kinda have to do a little something, in my opinion anyway. Unless it's your third cousins husband, who you don't know, and won't be at the wedding anyway, then that is different. But I honestly think it should AT LEAST be acknowledged, especially since she is so young and won't understand otherwise.

Oh, and I don't think there should be a huge celebration for your niece on your wedding day, so don't take it that way, I just think a simple playing of "Happy Birthday" would be really nice.

As the other ladies said, I do not think that presents and a huge celebration is necessary. She can open her presents the day before or the day after. But she will feel very special if you do something small.

Yes you are being selfish. Look, I'm sorry if I sound harsh, but really, unless you want to appear petty, mean and immature (and I know that you're none of these things), you should recognize her birthday in some fashion. You don't have to have streamers, balloons, presents and a clown; but certainly a miniature (individual) cake after dinner with a candle and everyone asked to sing happy birthday is appropriate and the right thing to do. At almost every wedding I've been to there has been recognition of someone's birthday or anniversary at some point during the reception or sometimes even the ceremony -- it's one fleeting moment that doesn't take anything away from the bridal couple (in fact it makes them look better to everyone by being willing to "share" some of the attention) and yet it will mean sooo much to this little girl (and her parents too)! Please reconsider your decision.

I have to agree with the other posts and your FH. I understand that your wedding day is your day, BUT this is your 5 year old niece. Ackownledging her birthday in some fashion is a MUST!! Its not like she's 15 and understands--in her mind its just HER birthday!! It doesn't have to be all about her, but something small would be great!!

Thank you for your inputs. I didn't want to be the mean aunt or anything like that. I will see if I can get my baker to make her a little cake in lieu of my anniversary cake (which I don't really want anyways). I will make sure to ask the DJ to play happy birthday for her and as Tinkerbell said it would probably be after the dinner. Thank you all for being honest, it is exactly what I wanted, I love you ladies.

Yep, I agree with everyone else. It wasn't a wedding, but when I was around 7 I was pissed off at the Easter Bunny for having Easter on my birthday...

Lol @ Amy...my brother was mad if things happened in his birthday MONTH

@Amy C-haha! Good thing you were not a Christmas baby. You would be pissed off at Jesus and Santa forever!

I agree. just have the dj start the happy birthday song and thats that. itl acknowledge her and shell feel special and then its only a minute or two out of your day

My wedding was on my DH cousin's b-day when we set the date we had no clue it was her b-day until his mom had me go through her address book for names and address's and it was written. Well she, or her parents didnt attened the wedding. I wasnt going to do anything special for her eitheir she's in her 30's and has had many birthdays already that was my day. But for your niece a happy birthday is good and maybe you can give her a birthday present the day of while getting ready just so she knows you remembered.

At least you have only 1 person I have several people on or around the day of our wedding - they will just get a shout out on the mic and that will be that. Besides they aren't little kids they are teens and adults. You will be the best Auntie in the world if you have a cake especially for her. Good Luck!!

I was reading through the posts and trying to decide how to word my opinion on this one... and then I saw your decision to get her a small cake and sing. I'm really glad you chose that... your niece is going to feel so much love rather than feeling confused & hurt.