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My wedding dress shopping experience

Ash, on August 22, 2020 at 12:32 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 12

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So I went wedding dress shopping for the first time, and I found my dress! It was the second one I tried on but I tried on 5-6 in total. I took my mom, sister, and two best friends. I tried on my dress for the 2nd time and that was when it hit me that it was my dress, I started crying and I was so happy. But I realized after that I was the only one crying and I was the one who had to ask everyone what they thought. I feel kind of rob about the experience because nobody cheered and nobody really asked me if I'm saying yes to the dress but I don't know if I expect that because I watch too many wedding shows. Part of me wants to pause my order and keep looking to have more experience but the other part of me wants to tell myself it's normal that my entourage acted like this and I do absolutely love my dress. What do I do?

P.S everyone did say that they loved the dress afterwards.

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Melle · on August 22, 2020 at 12:55 PM
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I would go with the dress you love even if you didn’t get the grand experience you had hoped for
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Jessica · on August 22, 2020 at 1:00 PM
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If you love the dress, I would go ahead, but it doesn’t hurt to look some more first if you have second thoughts. My entourage preferred a different dress, they liked the one I picked, but ultimately I knew it was my dress regardless of their reaction. I didn’t get the “are you saying yes to the dress?” Moment or the pictures with the “I said yes to the dress” sign either, but I had that moment with the dress that I could see myself walking down the aisle and that was enough.
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Nicole · on August 22, 2020 at 2:15 PM
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My mom didn’t cry at all and neither did I. I say stick with the dress you love, regardless of the reaction (or non-reaction in this case) of your entourage. You’re the one wearing it, so your opinion and reaction is really the only one that matters. Also, the casting directors for reality tv shows look for people who have over the top personalities/reactions/stories as that’s what makes interesting tv. Those shows definitely don’t show the “norm” when it comes to the reality of weddings.
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Yasmine · on August 22, 2020 at 3:28 PM
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Go with the dress you love! I’ve heard of this happening to other brides as well
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Reena · on August 22, 2020 at 3:34 PM
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Go with the dress you love. My entourage stayed quiet the entire time. They purposely didn’t say anything because they didn’t want to sway my decision. After I said “this is the one” then they agreed. However, there were not tears or cheers.
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MOB So Cal · on August 22, 2020 at 3:47 PM
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There is SO much about weddings where completely unrealistic expectations are encouraged by popular media -- dress shopping, bachelorette parties, bridal party "responsibilities", etc. As Nicole said reality TV is anything but REAL.... Those reactions are staged/coached/scripted. The ONLY thing that matters is that YOU love your dress. Also, think about the people you chose to take shopping with you -- are they really the type of people who would burst out in wild cheering? Most of us are not like that...it doesn't mean we don't care and/or don't love the dress our favorite bride chose, we're just not crazy cheering-type people. When I shopped with my daughter (she only took me because she did not want other people's' opinions), I purposely wore my best "poker face" until it was clear how SHE felt about each dress. I didn't want to influence her choice. Once she made her decision I was happy to tell her how much I LOVED the dress she chose, but I wanted her to be sure before I said anything. Maybe your "entourage" was similarly restraining themselves to make sure you were certain about what YOU wanted. You said you really love your dress -- that is truly all that matters. Hang in! (And, try not to compare your experiences to fake/manufactured expectations -- you'll be so much happier about your wedding!)
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Mrs. Spring · on August 22, 2020 at 3:48 PM
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I recommend you go witb the dress you love the most. You're the one who is going to wear it, so your opinion is the most important.
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Ash · on August 22, 2020 at 3:55 PM
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That is so very true! Thank you so much! Also, I think we were all very shocked that I found the dress right away so that might have been a factor too.
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Ashley · on August 22, 2020 at 5:32 PM
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I only went one time ans picked the second dress I tried on as well! My mom teared up when I tried it on the 2nd time to reaffirm that it was the one. I didn't really have grandiose expectations though
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Danielle · on August 22, 2020 at 6:14 PM
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I only went to 2 shops in 1 day. My MoH teared up, my future step daughter teared up and i looked in the mirror and just knew I never felt more beautiful on the inside and out. Go with your gut I also called my brother for his opinion which i swore i wouldn't my parents are gone and i thought i could be grown but i still wanted to know what my big brother thought..your instinct is always right
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Allie · on August 23, 2020 at 3:56 PM
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When I went dress shopping I took the people I wanted there, but told myself their opinions weren’t going to matter over my own. My mother didn’t really react much to the dress I loved. I started crying and my 2 best friends followed right after me. My mom never did but she did tell me she loved my dress and it’s definitely something that matches my personality. During the appointment my mom was pulling dresses that I hated, so I saw that we had very different tastes and took that into consideration. She loves a ton of lace and I don’t. So go with what YOU love because you are going to be the one wearing it.
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Laquita · on August 25, 2020 at 2:51 AM
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As someone who literally just went through something very similar, go with your gut & order what you like. Not everyone will have the same reaction as you, my sister never cried when I did, but she said she loved it & some of my more immediate family thinks I jumped the gun with my choice (they think you need to keep shopping around for a cheaper option, but nothing compares to THAT dress). I also realized some wanted me in a more ball gown style that's way too hot to wear in the middle of a SoCal summer. It's very easy to be swayed by others' opinions or thoughts even if that's not what you originally wanted, but do what you want to do as it's your dress & your day.
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