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Michelle
Super October 2020

My venue won’t allow me to postpone until last minute

Michelle, on May 29, 2020 at 12:35 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 14
Here’s what they sent me...it sounds like I would have to reduce my guest list by 50 which won’t be a problem but I don’t think I want a wedding where no dancing or socializing is permitted. I don’t want to sit 30 people outside the ballroom lol. I don’t want to be remembered as the wedding where we had to stay at our tables...she can only “assume” we would be allowed to postpone like they did with the other couples if social distancing is required.....



“you can do first dance, mother/son and father daughter dance but no other dancing - tables have to be 6ft apart- so with this our main ballroom can hold 100 and then if we put seating in the buffet room that is another 30- so total of 130 - our outside ceremony location can hold 80ish(not including bridal party)- as you have to be 6ft part the rows - no help yourself stations( food, coffee, desserts) all have to be served to guest- - guest are asked to stay seated and practice social distancing
Those are the main ones that would affect you. With covid a lot of people are sending out invitations a little later than normal due to guidelines will change before weddings.
I can only assume that if this is still going on in October that my owners will allow me to do the same as I did with May and some June brides and allow them to reschedule/postpone”
Should I push harder? I told them if nothing changes by August, I want to postpone but instead they’re wanting me to wait.




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Latest activity by Michelle, on May 29, 2020 at 5:03 PM
  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    I would absolutely push harder! Who would want a wedding like that?! There is no reason they shouldn't allow you to cancel in August if things are no better. You will need to give your guests enough notice, either way, and August is a perfect time frame to do that in for an October wedding. I would't back down on this.

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  • Michelle
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    Thank you, wasn’t sure if I’m being ungrateful or unreasonable to push harder since I know she’s under a lot of pressure and it’s not her fault but I do believe I deserve to celebrate how I want and postpone. I meet with her for a tasting on the 17th, I think bringing it up in person would be better than email...I want the option of rescheduling for another date, I don’t even care if it’s in fall anymore lol I just want to celebrate with loved ones...not just sit at dinner and go home.


    I want to get married, I think we still will get married October in our own special intimate ceremony but I don’t want to socially distance a big party. Everyone will not have fun and not be happy.
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
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    No, I definitely don't think you are being ungrateful or unreasonable. And as long as you are not rude to her about it (and I'm totally not implying that you are or would be), I am sure she will completely understand where you are coming from. Every bride deserves to have her dream day!

    I think a small, intimate ceremony in October with a larger party later is a great idea! I hope everything works out for you! Smiley heart

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  • Michelle
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    If I press harder, should I have to pay a fee? There’s nothing about that in the contract. So I don’t know what my “rights” are.
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  • Meghan
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    There is nothing in your contract about having to reschedule/postpone? Venues typically have a "natural disaster" clause, which some are including the pandemic under.

    Since you would not be cancelling, I wouldn't think you would be responsible for paying any fees. However, each venue is different. That will be something you will have to discuss with your venue.

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  • Michelle
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    You’re right, I missed it because it was under the cancellation language.
    “In the event of a postponement (with written notice received at least 180 days prior to the function date), management will transfer all monies paid to the new wedding date which must be held within one calendar year subject to availability and management choice. In the event of postponement, pricing subject to increase up to 10%”

    “Force majeur: company shall not be responsible for any failure of performance due to act of god or government authority”
    So it sounds like their butts are covered of course. I would rather pay the 10% if needed even if it is another $1,000...I did sign the contract and agree to it.
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  • Michelle
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    Also, i did contact them in April so that’s 6 months prior año discussing a back up plan but she said there would be plenty of time to see what happens.
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  • A
    Just Said Yes October 2020
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    You have to do what’s best for YOU. These venues obviously don’t want to lose your business but these restrictions aren’t what you want on your big day.
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  • Michelle
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    I’ll try to fight harder in person when I see them on the 17th for a tasting. Maybe face to face will have more impact than email.
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    Just Said Yes October 2020
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    Yes agreed. Hope it all works out. Keep the faith.

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  • Michelle
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    Thank you.
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  • Anna
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    If your wedding is in October I would wait until they make the call in August to postpone it. That’s what we had to do to avoid fees. We are getting a call next week about our August 8,2020 wedding. Sure it sucks to wait til 2 months before the wedding before we can make changes... but we knew it was inevitable and all our guests already knew it likely wasn’t going to happen. It’s not uncommon to have to wait for the venue to make the decision or else pay fees.
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  • Michelle
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    That’s my plan but it sounds like they want me to wait until October to postpone. I’ll have to get more clarification when I see them.
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  • Michelle
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    Also I’m not sure if I should cut down the guest list now and send out invites. I’m just confused what I should do.
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