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Just Said Yes June 2019

My venue isn’t what i dreamed of.

Taylor, on December 19, 2018 at 5:50 PM Posted in Planning 0 14

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Anyone else feel like their budget put a little bit of a dent in their “dream” wedding?

When my fiance and I got engaged we looked for months at what felt like a milltion different places. Everything we loved was out of our price range or didn’t give us that “feeling.” There was one venue that had the best reception spot we could dream of but a really horrible ceremony spot. We tried looking nearby at ceremony spots and couldn’t find any we liked. We finally found a venue that was pretty and all inclusive. The price she quoted us was so far below everything else we had seen. They only had a few dates left for the year, so we went out to lunch and then went back and booked it.

Now here I am planning the decor and the details of the wedding and keep doubting everything and getting disappointed over “little things.” Like I don’t like the chandelier over the dance floor, and I don’t like the that there isn’t a bridal suite included. Sometimes I even wonder if we should have picked the place with a bad ceremony spot but a great reception spot, since ceremonys aren’t long anyways.

I haven’t voiced my opinions to my fiancé because he is totally IN LOVE with this venue and so is my mom (person paying for venue.)

Please tell me I’ll fall back in love with my venue or that I can decorate it to make it somewhat of a “dream”?

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Latest activity by Pirate & 60s Bride, on December 20, 2018 at 5:15 PM

Dedicated April 2019
Emily · on December 19, 2018 at 6:11 PM
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Sometimes putting a break on planning really does help. Once you start planning again, see if just you can go a revisit the venue. Thats what i did and it really helped. You should love your venue but if you dont, voice your concern to your fiancé and see what he will compromise on!
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Caitlyn · on December 19, 2018 at 6:12 PM
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Maybe I'm too pragmatic and not sentimental enough but I don't "love" or have any "feelings" towards my ceremony space, reception space or the dress I purchased yesterday. Sometimes I think something is wrong with me, but on the other hand, I'm very rational and realistic. Here's how things worked out for my FH and I;
- Church: We selected this church because FH went to college there
- Reception: Best ballroom space we saw (similar to East Room of the White House); all-inclusive price with catering and bar
- Dress: It isn't everything I want/there I things I would change, but it's reasonably priced and fits well with the ceremony and reception spaces

I bet on the day of, you'll love the spaces you chose -- especially if your FI loves them. Plus, you'll be marrying your person. That's all that matters in the end.
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Chandra · on December 19, 2018 at 6:38 PM
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I'm not totally in love with our reception venue. The church is great...but I cant say I really pictured myself in a ballroom at holiday inn for a reception!
We caved to pressure from parents and the fact that it was more all inclusive than the other place we looked at but completely loved. In the end it doesnt matter to me. I'm marrying the love of my life and between that and filling the room with people we love....that's what matter!!
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Alyssa · on December 19, 2018 at 7:28 PM
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You definitely will make it into your dream wedding venue!!

it just needs all of the elements that will make your wedding special and then it will come back together for you

i really hope that you fall fall back in love sooner rather than later just for your peace of mind though
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Alyssa · on December 19, 2018 at 7:30 PM
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I love you soo much

so pleased im not the only one who isnt head over heels for everything and actually thinks that’s still just fine lol
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Alyssa · on December 19, 2018 at 7:33 PM
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I “loved” then venue with less than half the price tag and limited space so guest list was limited (also for money reasons lol)

but my SO Fell in love with a venue

i certainly don’t hate it and definitely agree it’s beautiful and “perfect” but honestly I would probably be just as happy at any location because as you said it’s about marriage not where
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Lizzy · on December 19, 2018 at 8:21 PM
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My dream venue was booked, and way too expensive honestly. Well there are things I don't live about our venue, there's still a lot more I do like and ultimately I get to marry my best friend so that's all that really matters to me
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Dedicated May 2019
Kristin · on December 19, 2018 at 9:13 PM
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To be clear from the start, I didn’t want a real ceremony in the first place. I wanted to just go to the courthouse, but my fiancé didn’t . So I never really cared about the venue regardless. However, we picked our venue because it’s not expensive and it includes so much. The part that I hate is that now I find myself slightly disappointed because it’s not going to fully fit our personalities. I didn’t expect to feel this way at all since I didn’t care to begin with. That being said, I’m happy with the price and I’m very happy I’ll be married at the end of it all. That’s all that matters.
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on December 20, 2018 at 12:03 AM
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Don’t worry, it’ll all come together.

Are you going to rent uplights? Those can really transform a space with color and mood. We rented cordless ones for $25 each from RentMyWedding. Candles or lantern centerpieces (with or without flowers) will help provide a beautiful glow and decor. Those are two decor items that aren’t expensive and provide a Big Bang for your buck.
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Just Said Yes June 2019
Taylor · on December 20, 2018 at 5:01 PM
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I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels this way aha. You are right that the marriage is the important part. I just think sometimes with wedding planning that idea gets lost as veryrhjnf becomes overwhelming. It’s nice
to be reminded of what matters!
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Just Said Yes June 2019
Taylor · on December 20, 2018 at 5:02 PM
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We. And hang our ads anything to the ceilings at or venue but we are thinking about adding lights on the floor to the pillars around the room to add some color! My fiancé thought it would be a great idea and I agree!
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Just Said Yes June 2019
Taylor · on December 20, 2018 at 5:03 PM
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I meant to type “we can’t add or hang anything to our venue.”

Sorry I’m on the moblie app and sometimes its its harder to see the forums ahahaha.
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Chandra · on December 20, 2018 at 5:06 PM
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The wedding industry is a ridiculous one! It seems to be an outdoing the Jones's situation. (Is that the phrase? Lol)
I've gotten caught up in it too, much to FHs chagrin. The mere mention of the dreaded W word gets everybody in a tizzy and Jack's up the prices.

Although now that I think about it....I'm not sure I ever really dreamed of what my reception *would* be like...Haha
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on December 20, 2018 at 5:15 PM
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YAY.
Search "uplights before and after" to see cool transformations. Here's one I think it great considering the original space...
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