My style doesn't match my venue.

I don't think you need to spend $4,000 on drapes. Exposed brick could bring a loft type, industrial feel to it, if that helps.

Can you get away with just draping the ceiling?

Maybe google images of your venue when it is decorated for different wedding styles and get inspiration there. If anything, try to "marry' the two styles together. Really lean on the designer and push her to try to create the style you want without a lot of added cost. She should be able to come up with alternatives for you that won't break the bank.

I think it would be fine with exposed brick. Look on google, pinterest, etc. There is ALWAYS a way to add bling

Sounds like something you should have thought of before putting down the deposit.

I would have thought about all that before I put a deposit down.

4000 for drapery, that's ridiculous IMHO

I do NOT recommend paying $4000 in an effort to change your venue into something it isn't. Instead, focus on ways to have sparkly, shimmery decor that fits in with a rustic setting.

Keep centerpieces and decor small scale (so, no HUGE centerpieces): if they're huge and not rustic, they'll look out of place. Instead, maybe think about using sea shells or vase gems (http://www.save-on-crafts.com/vasgemmarsto.html) and white flowers.

I wouldn't try to add more rustic decor, but just focus on finding things that sparkle but that feel natural.

And then remember that it's one day and that it sounds like a gorgeous venue, and you're getting married in front of the lake, and no one will even give the decor a second thought if it's not rustic enough.

I picked it because food was very important to my fiancé and I. According to the reviews I've read online, the food is awesome and the customer service is great. It's a beautiful venue with lots of scenery and sunlight. It's just romantic. I just don't know if i will be able to pull off the elegance aspect I want without the drapery. My theme is roses. I love flowers, especially roses and I

Love bling. So I will have hanging rosettes and drapes on the ceiling and lots if bling on the tables. I've researched wedding pics that were held at that venue and only one person draped it. Everyone else utilized the exposed brick. Can I pull off an elegant wedding in a rustic setting? Has anyone seen this done? I'm hoping the walls won't take away from the look I'm going for.

Oh btw keep the should've could've would've comments to yourselves. It doesn't help at all. Thanks to everyone who commented something useful.

You can't control how people comment on your posts. If someone says something you don't think is helpful, then just ignore it.

I think it's important to keep in mind that when you plan a wedding, real life often means changing your vision of your wedding. I always dreamt of a lot of details about my wedding, from small details (tea-length dress, walking down the aisle with my fiance instead of towards him) to big ones (getting married at the Boston Museum of Science). Sometimes, budget gets in the way, and sometimes your partner has other ideas. It's just life.

You made the choice to book your venue because it has amazing food, gorgeous grounds, and great service. That's great. But it might also mean not having lots of romantic drapes and bling; even if you pay $4k, it might not look the way you want. We're just trying to temper your expectations; you knew what you were getting when you booked the venue.

Post a link to your venue

I think with some work you could find a way to incorporate the brick with out spending 4k. It may be different than you envisioned but You might have to change your expectations and alter your vision. Good luck I'm sure it will work out with a little effort.

@Stephanie A. You're right I did know what I was getting into. I also understand I cannot control people's comments but why comment on someone's post with negativity? You, however, were very helpful with your responses. I would never get on someone's post and criticize them and they need help. That's silly but anyway back to the matters at hand. I appreciate everyone's helpful response and you all are right. I decided not to drape all the walls. It is silly to pay that much for drapery. I now realize the problem is I've allowed the designer to sway my judgement about the draping. Of course she would suggest expensive draping, it's more money in her pockets. I just will do more research into tying the two styles together successfully without over doing it.

Https://m.facebook.com/page/mediaset.php?id=96465636453&album=pb.96465636453.-2207520000.1391333236.

Here you go ChampagneTaste. They don't have many wedding photos sorry.

Here's another link to their wedding album on FB.

https://m.facebook.com/96465636453/albums/10150706526251454/

Thanks for the pictures, that helps! I think the drapery isn't really needed (as you already decided) but I think there are other ways to make it look romantic. Keep the lights low and use a lot of candles (or fake led candles if they don't allow flames). Then I'd do some nice uplighting and then maybe add some Christmas lights like the picture below. I think if you have nice colors with good lighting and the flowers hanging from the ceiling, people will still get the romantic feel that you want. I'd suggest telling your designer a top amount you're willing to pay for everything so she doesn't go crazy with suggesting the most expensive. Then she should figure out the best way to work pretty well in that budget.

I say utilize it! It's a gorgeous venue and you must have picked it for a reason! I can see in the photos that other people have had elegant receptions in there, so it's not like you're restricted to just the rustic style because of the exposed brick (which, I was expecting the brick to look more rustic than it is, really). I think it would look better if you embrace the venue's charm instead of trying to cover it up.

It looks as if several people have had romantic receptions there. I am using a lot of mercury glass at my venue. It gives that sparkle but has the vintage, rustic look as well. Maybe that is a way for you to meld the styles.

Where I live there are quite a few restaurants with exposed brick walls (it was the architecture style when the old town was built). Some of the nicer restaurants tend to go for white/ecru tablecloths with black chairs. And I've got to say that it looks really elegant and romantic at night with low lights, and the tables decorated with classic candles and flowers (usually in clear glass vases). I reckon the bricks actually add to the romantic feel!

That truly helps a lot. Thanks you guys. I now see where I should from here. I'm happy again.

If you don't like the brick behind the cake table, drape that one place.

Drape the ceiling and call it a day.

Have you thought about having uplighting? That would be much cheaper than draping the entire room but it would still make it glamorous. Then you could have tons of candles throughout the room for a romantic feel.

Here's a pic of uplighting on exposed brick walls.