My step-grandma is hurt that I didn't invite her...What should I do? Too late to send invite?

Since your mom told her the invite probably got lost in the mail, I think if you want to invite her (which it sounds like you do), you can send her an invite and either call her or write her a note saying that you talked to your mom and found out she never got her invite.

If you want her there call her and invite her. Dend one to her and keep with the "must be lost in mail". If you don't want her there don't invite

Yes, I think you're in a position where have to invite her. She obviously wants to share the day the with you, and that's the kind of person you want there. Besides, mom's already said there was an invitation. Just call her.

I agree with each of them ladies bec i was about to say the samething. Just make sure u still send an invite for she can have to keep.

It sounds like this is your Step-Father's mother, am I correct? If your Step-Father is attending the wedding, it would be very kind of your to invite his mother. Your post doesn't read like you have negative issues with her, and it also seems as if she has been kind to you (sending a gift when your son was born, etc.). Hopefully one more person won't break the budget and it might make an older lady feel like she has a place in your family. You never know, she might be a blessing to you or your son some day in the future!

Having said all that, though, I do want to add - if you don't like her or you have a negative issue with her, it's your day and you don't have to have anyone at your wedding that you don't want there. I think everyone would support you in your decision.

Yes, this is my stepdads mom. My stepdad passed away and, sadly, I haven't had much contact with her since ( other than Facebook). No, I have no issues with her. She is a kind lady and she's always been kind to me. Like I said before, the only reason I didn't invite her was because we invited close family only, and I didn't want her to feel obligated to attend or send a gift. I didn't want her to feel like, "oh I haven't seem her in 3 years and now she's inviting me to her wedding." You know ? I like her and wouldn't mind her being there. But now I don't want her to feel like she was an afterthought either. So I should just go ahead and send one to her then?

I would call her and say exactly what you said. You didn't want her to feel obligated but you would love to have her there and thank her for thinking of you on your day. Good luck!

I would fix her up an invite and either mail it ( give her a call and state you sent another one out and it is on its way) or have your mom give it to her. Stick with the story it got lost and that is the best way not to hurt any feelings. Just keep in mind for future events that she will be hurt if not invited bc although you may have not seen her in a while doesnt mean she is not interested and happy for your life events.. i.e. she sent a gift when you had your kiddo

It is not too late. You can always send her an invitation saying what your mom said -- it must have gotten lost in the mail. Or you can tell her what you told us. Either way, if you think it is a good idea to have her there, invite her now.

Thank you all! I will send her out an invite tomorrow.

Good decision, Michelle. You're doing the right thing.

I loved my Nana (my step-grandmother). If she were still with us, I have no question that she would be on the guest list. Glad you've decided to invite her. You won't regret it.

Sounds great Michele, she will be so happy I am sure!

I agree that you're doing the right thing! She will appreciate it, I'm sure.

Michele is doing the right thing by sending the invite....if she doesnt rsvp in time i would call and apoligize that it got to her that late and stick with your moms story about it getting lost in the mail...little white lies never hurt every now and then to spare feelings of someone older