My soon to be in-laws suck

Aaawah wedding date twin! Enjoy it anyhow and they'll just have to regret they didn't attend!

That puppy baby if Urs is so cute!!!

That sucks! Your FMIL's comment about having to go to church... are they very religious and upset that you aren't having a religious ceremony, or something like that? Seems like an odd excuse.

Regardless of the reasons, it's terrible that they aren't coming. Is it too late to invite a few other people that you wanted to be there but didn't think you had room for? I hope you and FH are able to surround yourself with loving and supportive people on your wedding day.

Thanks Bennett for the kind words. Can't believe how fast the days are flying by.

Beth - I thought everything was good with us, I just think that they don't see it as being important which sucks. They have never met my family/parents and I would have liked all that to happen before the day of. My sister said she called and said she couldn't attend and my sister was so caught off guard that she just goes "really?". It's one day- my one and only shower, soon-to-be wife of her only son. I thought it would mean something. I know my family is all super excited and I thought FH's would be the same. I told FH that I thought it was pretty rude of them.

I just think that's horrible. Very sad for you and FH that his family doesn't care to be there.

I'm sorry that they aren't coming to your shower, especially your FMIL. You'll still have a fabulous wedding day and shower. ((Hugs))

Wow so the parents haven't even met each other?? That does sounds very rude of them. I'm sorry you're going through this.

Thanks Ladies. My sister told me in advanced so that I'm not disappointed the day of the shower. My mom told me to try not and let it bother me, but it really does. There's no effort at all.

At least I have you ladies!

I definitely know where your coming from. We have gone through similar things with FHs family not liking me and at first i was upset and tried to please them and that didn't work and as many of them RSVPed no to the wedding just because he started to get his feelings hurt but we both realized that they are the ones missing out and either with them or without them we will still enjoy our day

My mother in law didn't come to my bridal shower either, because she didn't want to make the 1.5 hour drive. It hurt. I cried. DH was upset/mad but all I could do was remember the people who were there and being supportive.

Maybe talk to FH to have him talk to his mother, because going to church isn't a very good reason. It's usually in the morning, birdal showers are usually in the afternoon, so she should be able to make it.

I'm sorry hun. I'm in the same boat... I've had a falling out with my soon to be MIL a year ago cause of family stuff and things were better. I gave her a list of people for the rehearsal dinner and because of family issues... she is backing out of even helping with it. And because I didn't send her a text in over a week she sent me a passive aggressive one saying shes so sad I dont care about our relationship... Now shes not coming to my bridal shower this saturday and her daughters are off towards me once again... I feel like i can never win with the ladies in this household... I feel for ya girlfriend

I am so sorry In laws can be a pain. I don't think mine even realize that we are getting married. They never mention it and whenever we do they just shrug it off.

Thanks for your support. Sorry to hear that this is not uncommon. I would never treat other people this way- do onto others.

I have no advice but my mother in law made my bridal shower super awkward and tense, I often wonder what it would have been like without her....

My dad's mother refused to go to my parents' wedding - which was her mistake because they were happy for 29 years (until my dad died). And she was in none of the photos.

Just let it roll off your back. Don't let it hurt your feelings - just realize that you're classier than they are.