My sister's (moh) due date is my wedding date. Now what?

What’s more important to you, having your sister there, or the date?

No one needs to "step in" as your MOH.

With all of the shuffling around of wedding dates because of the virus, there's a chance it could be difficult to switch your date. However, I'm sure there are some that would love to take a November 2020 date for the same reason. As PP said, I'd weigh what was more important to me. I hope not all feelings are negative toward your sister's pregnancy if she's happy to be pregnant!

I disagree with previous posters because it isn’t just about the date. 5K is a lot of money! That makes it a lot tougher of a decision. My fiancé’s sister is due about a month before our wedding and lives out of state. We know that she may not be up for traveling with a newborn and we’ve accepted that. We’re going to continue with our wedding as planned because all of our deposits are down. So it’s not about the date, it’s about finances. If you can swing it and can find an open date then go for it. But if everyone is understanding then this may be one of those life things where we can be thankful for FaceTime and pictures!

View Quoted Comment I appreciate this! Thanks for understanding the nuance. I guess it's worth exploring if we can change the date, but there are so many unknowns in pregnancy. Even if we could change the date up 5 weeks there are no guarantees she could be there. Thanks for sharing your experience!

View Quoted Comment If she can't be physically there to hold my bouquet or help me pee, then yes someone does need to step in. Obviously we are thrilled that she is expecting. Just saddened that we wont have pictures or get to hug and cry joyful tears day of. I don't need help figuring out how to love my niece or nephew, got that covered. Need help figuring out how to adjust plans.

View Quoted Comment

You can put your bouquet down on the altar. Or hand it to another attendant (best man?) Or hand it to your mother or someone else as you pass them in the aisle. And you can pee by yourself by simply lifting up the front of your dress and straddling the toilet backward. Or your mother or any female relative or friend can help you pee even if they are not in the wedding party. People do manage without a MOH.

View Quoted Comment

Never said you need help loving her child? You just immediately went to "she and I are heartbroken," and every time I've seen a post like this, it's always included a "I'm super happy for her" line. I work in the wedding industry and just got done talking to a bride who's legit furious with her cousin for getting pregnant before her wedding, so I'm a little sensitive to it.

Most anyone can hold your bouquet or help you pee--it definitely doesn't have to be your sister. Is she your only bridal party member? My sister and I are super close, so I might move my wedding if I had the opportunity, but it's definitely worth talking with your venue/vendors to see what (if any) money you'd lose out on by moving the date.