My sister Wants to Invite Her Friends to my Bachlorette Party

She said "They don't need to be invited to come but it's up to you. I didn't want to invite them without asking you, if I got married I probs wouldn't invite Kyra and Alex (they are two of my best friends) to the wedding but I would want them to come to the bachelorette party, but that' just me. I've gone to lots of Bachorlette parties and not gone to the wedding...depends on the situation"

I honestly don't really care if they come. I like them. I just don't want to be rude and want them to be upset. They would never except to be invited the wedding, they are not my friends and my sister isn't really friends with any of my friends so I can see why she wants them to come. Should I let them come? Would you be upset or annoyed if you were my sisters friends? Thanks!

Ya...no. I wouldn't invite them to the bachelorette party, especially if they aren't invited to the wedding. They can all go out to party together any other night. That is YOUR night.

I have seen where people come to the bachelorette party that are not in the bridal party, but never where they aren't invited to the wedding so I am with you on this one. I think it may be weird, and they may expect to come to the wedding if they are coming to the bachelorette party. Best of luck!

No, its rude to invite people to pre-wedding events and then not the wedding it self. Imagine how awkward it would be if someone was like "see you at the wedding!" And they have to be like "no...". I've been the no person and it felt uncomfortable.

Well. It is rude to invite them to a bachelorette or shower without inviting them to the wedding. You can't really get around that.

However, if your sister (who is the planner) wants to invite them and she tells them specifically "I don't want to be left alone at my sister's party, will you come just to keep me company?" to her besties, I don't think that's the worst thing that could happen. You're kind of stuck in a weird place with this. If your sister can invite them in an unofficial "just come keep me company" way, maybe you can just turn a blind eye to it?

Um no.

Anyone invited to pre-wedding events (bachelorette, shower, engagement party) must also be invited to the wedding.

But AMW's suggestion that your sister specifically ask them to "keep her company" is a nice compromise.

That what I was thinking. My sister is insisting that they know they are not invited and she thinks they would like to come anyway. I don't think having them there will make the day not about me or anything like that and my sister i planning and possibly paying for this party so I want her to be able to do what she wants. I just don't know. It seems rude, I am mostly trying to see it from her friends perspective.

I see no problem with them going to the bachelorette and not the wedding. I'm sure they already know that.

I think if your sister is the one inviting them there is no problem. Especially if she says she just don't want to be alone and if they already know they're not invited to the wedding

It seems like your sister wants them there, so she's pushing for it. If they aren't important enough to you to come the wedding, that seems weird for them to come to the bachelorette. I'd say no on this one

You aren't inviting them to party so you aren't being rude. I would be fine with other people coming as long as I'm not actually inviting them and they know they aren't coming to wedding

I've been to Bach parties where I wasn't invited to the wedding I didn't care I just wanted to party with my friends. I don't think it's a big deal.

No, it's really rude to invite anyone to any wedding event and they're not invited to the actual wedding. Don't do it.

I've been to a bachelorette party and not to a wedding, but I wouldn't do that to anyone else.

I don't see what the big deal is, really. They may likely just want to come along for the party and to have a night out on the town. It sounds like they'd be invited as her guests. Sometimes all this stickler etiquette stuff is too much.

Thank you everyone for your input!

My sister tried the same thing with mine. This is supposed to be a party celebrating you. It's nice that she doesn't want to be "alone" but she should be hanging out with her sister and not worried about her friends.

I would say stay firm! They shouldn't be at the bachelorette party if by aren't at the wedding.

I get that it's a breach of etiquette to invite ppl to pre-wedding events that are not invited to the wedding. I have seen it done before though. The extra guests knew they were not invited to the wedding but wanted to be part of the bachelorette party anyways. They paid for their own activities throughout the night and the MOH and I (the bride was a childhood friend) covered the bride's expenses. That way none of the extra guests were gifting the bride anything.

I had a BM ask if her friend could come and I said no because A) she isn't invited to the wedding and B) she has a reputation for going a bit to far with the drinking