My sister the drama queen

This sounds like something that my 14 year old sister would do.

She just turned 21...she lacks a lot of maturity.

Eeeeek.

It sounds to me like she's still annoyed about the date and trying to just cause drama because she's annoyed. I'd tell her she gets a plus one and end it there. (And I'm saying plus one because she's traveling all that way).

My mom and I actually had a conversation about how she needs to. She's apparently tried but my sister just has been going through this really difficult streak and just throws fits when they try to talk to her. My parents are insisting I let her be a bridesmaid and I just know that's going to be a whole other thing.

Ah yes THAT sister. She is definitely very immature

I did tell her she's getting a plus one and that it can be whoever she wants and not just like a date.

Oh, thank God it's not 22...

Yeah, she sounds like a gem. I think she's trying to get out of going with the "I need my friends or I'll be bored!" statement.

She's being a brat. Your mom needs to talk with her. I'd say you, but she's acting like a child; clearly, she's not mature enough to handle this without a talk from mommy.

This annoys me. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this.

I completely agree Rachel R.

Wow. That's crazy. I'm 21 and I would never dream of asking something like that. I wouldn't even ask about FH, I'd just wait for my invite. I think you just need to be straightforward with her and say hey this wedding is not for you, you can't bring friends (except one if you're giving her a plus one) and suck it up and be an adult for one night.

If she wants a sorority party, let her pledge. What you're hosting is a wedding, and it costs a lot to host each and every guest with apps, drinks, dinner, more drinks, dessert, and coffee. She receives an invitation -- just like everyone else -- and she is allowed to bring a guest. Period. The prime objective is for a couple to be married and host a lovely, well hosted party for their guests; making sure one family member is surrounded by her friends is not an objective. Tell her that she's being introduced to adulthood -- from this day on, she'll be invited to lots of parties, weddings, fund raisers, and social events that will not allow her to bring her gang of girls.

Welcome to adulthood, sister of the bride.

My brother is 22 and he also asked about bringing friends with him since he wanted to make a road trip out of it. I told him he could bring one person and he understood. Your sister sounds rediculous though...just say no!

Just read your comment about her difficult streak. Yikes. Sounds like she's having that "I'm eighteen and do what I want!" phase three years late.

I agree with Richard. Next time she pitches a fit, saying she won't have any fun, reply as he said to and that's that. Move on to a different topic.

If, for some reason, she decides not go, she's going to look bad.

I'd tell her she can have a plus one and thats it. You and your mom need to talk to her.

If she continues to act like a child..say exactly what Richard said.

I plan on it. Thanks everyone. Honestly, if she didn't come I really wouldn't care. I love her but she's been increasingly difficult. My parents would never forgive her though so I know she will be there even if they have to drive to her dorm and bring her to the venue.

Hahaha

My fiancés younger sister did this and threw a fit when he said she couldn't bring friends (we gave her a +1, but not a group of friends). She's 26. I feel you and what you're going through, OP. You sound like you've got a good head about it all, I commend you and am in awe because I sure as hell don't.

I'm so sorry

You are dealing with this, hope things get better. She definitely sounds immature, and attention grabby.

If it makes you feel any better, my 50 year old aunt did the same thing. She threw a fit because she could only bring one of her friends. And now she's not coming. Sorry it happened to you too.

If she is going pay for there plates sure... i mean as long as you have room. Jk how old is she?