My sister is trying to steal my spotlight, I'm super hurt.

You get one day.

It actually might be a good thing if you have OOT guests. They can stay the whole weekend and won't have to travel multiple times within the same year!

Be happy for the girl. She's your damn sister!

Logistically that is gonna suck for guests but, your wedding will be over by then.

This sounds like a bigger problem than just setting a date; there is something else going on here.

You need to sit down and have an honest conversation.

I am extremely happy for her! I just don't want our guests to have to choose. The venues are 3 hours apart and my save the dates are already sent

You can split the cost of flowers!

They don't have to choose if they're not on the same day.

I think being upset is valid, I'd be pretty pissed myself honestly, but at the end of the day you probably can't do much. I second @Celia though, that seems weird and like there's Definitely something else going on. Have you guys talked about WHY they chose that day?

Also, if you already sent your STDs out, then if guests do end up having to choose which to attend, there's a good chance they'll pick yours since they knew about it first, if that makes you feel any better...

Leah, I agree. That is just ridiculous. There's 52 weeks in a year she could've picked another weekend. Even the weekend after.

My wedding is @ 7pm and hers is @ 11am too close for comfort.

She's getting married the day after you?! did you ask her why she would want to do that - from her perspective I can't imagine that. very weird

LOL @ OGKathryn there are 52 weeks in a year

But I agree, it's pretty shitty of her to pick that day. There isn't really much you can do about it, but honestly if I were invited to her wedding I would seriously side-eye her, and possibly not even go

I think this is an exception to the "you get one day" thing.

The month after? fine

even two weeks after? ehhh.. but still fine.

The next freaking day? Nooooooope. You need to talk to her asap.

She said she chose that day due to her fiancé having the week after off... But to be honest we have a great relationship. She's my half sister.

I'd be upset. Has she booked a venue? Has she really considered what this would mean for guests? A 3 hour drive between yours and hers doesn't sound fun.

As a guest, I wouldn't be happy about back to back weddings. I'm usually dancing all night, so my feet hurt the next day (and it's a really fun wedding, I might be nursing a hangover). I'm not sure I'd go to the second day if I got the information about the first earlier.

Also, is she planning on having you as a bridesmaid or is she one of yours? No way could I be in a wedding the day before or day after mine

I would just imagine your families and mutual friends would be exhausted. I wouldn't be so concerned about the thunder stealing but just the whole ordeal. My sister is my other half and my best friend, I'd be like "Let's just double up and have one big shebang!!!!!" Am I weird?

Your wedding is at 7AM?

Wait youre getting married at 7 AM??? shitt thats the earliest wedding time ive heard i didnt realize that was a thing

She looks up to me. She's almost like a twin. She mimics everything I do. But this is a bit much

I'm sorry, but a 7 a.m. wedding?

But, yea, the very next day is shitty of her.