My sister asked my mom to walk me down the aisle...

I have no idea what to tell you. Why did your sister think it was her place to say anything? Boundaries???? Hello???

And, why would your mom just listen to your sister instead if asking what YOU want? I'm not getting these dynamics at all.

I would be so annoyed. That was definitely not her place to ask.

You should tell your sister to mind her own biz.nas.

Def not her place. does your sister do things like this often (stick her nose where it doesnt belong) if so maybe you could explain to your mom that this is one of those times and sister took it upon herself to say/do something that isn't what you wanted. has your mom said anything to you? let her know you don't want to hurt her feelings but you had always vision walking down the aisle with just your dad

I second the let her know YOUR vision... it's your wedding day not your sister's.

I don't know she really has no boundaries. I haven't told FH yet... at first I felt so angry I felt like I was on fire. Now I just feel like crying.

WOW talk about a rock and hard place. Someones feelings are going to be hurt and I have a feeling it will be yours. Your sister had no right to do that and I would be furious at her. That part set aside. I am actually having both my parents walk me down the isle. I have a feeling by your mother saying what she said she is already wondering why your sister asked her. I would sit her down and say something like Mom you know I love you but I would love to see your face as I walk down that isle towards FH. I dunno something to ease your way out of it. Boy did she create a mess she would be on shiz list for a bit. Good luck

Wow. Tough one! Is there another special role you can give your mom instead? Like lighting an altar candle, doing a reading, or participating in a ritual? It might soften the inevitable letdown if you have an alternate role already in mind.

O.o.O.

Here's what I would do - call up momz immediately and say, "Mom, this is awkward but I just wanted to say I'm not sure why sister brought up you walking down the aisle with me. I've always envisioned doing things the traditional way with just dad, like YOU said. You're very important at the wedding, I've always imagined you being escorted yourself. I'm so sorry she took it upon herself to ask you, I'm not sure why she did it." And then fluff her up by talking about her dress or her hair or her corsage or something. Hopefully if you nip it in the bud it will just go away and it won't get awkward.

And then smack your dumb-a@@ sister in the nose with a rolled up magazine and tell her to butt the fluck out. Bad puppy! WTF was she thinking??!?

LOL krisalicious-that's solid advice.

Yeah, do what she said.

Lol kisalicious. I wish! I think I'm too nice too do that, but FH isn't . He does all my dirty work I fantasize about doing lol.

On a more serious note, I'm dreading talking to my mom about it,I'm praying I get what I envisioned.

Lmao krisalicious ... you have such a um creative way with words

Haha! Well thanks. I think.

Seriously though? Your mom should know better than to think your sister asking = you asking. She raised your sister, I assume she knows that your sister has no boundaries. So if you say something gently to her it shouldn't be a surprise. Honestly, from her reaction, it doesn't sound like she's jumping up and down at the idea. But if you give her time to mull it over she might get attached to the idea, especially if she talks to any of her friends about it. That's why I would nip it in the bud. As in, call her now. Or tomorrow morning. Just be clear about what you want. Nobody can give you what you're envisioning but you, by asking for it. KWIM?

I do think your sister should somehow get the message that she could have caused some serious hurt feelings and awkwardness for you/your mom/your dad, but that's just me. Send her over here if you would like.

I would definitely talk to your mom asap. If you really want just your dad walking you down the aisle, you don't want the thought staying in your mom's head for long. Sometimes the more you think about something, the more it sounds appealing. My parents are divorced and despite me always wanting just my dad to walk me down the aisle, I was considering asking my mom to as well since she is the one that has always been there... She brought it up one day and said how she wouldn't want to do it. Maybe it's something that your mom may not even be interested in. I have no idea why your sister would even think it's her place. Is she very young?

No Future Mrs F she is not younger than me, she's 5 years older than me but acts like a 16 year old most of the time.

and WellAlwaysHaveParis- my mom might listen to my sister because she said "Shelley wanted to ask you if you would walk her down the aisle." I was there and didn't say anything because I couldn't believe what she had just said and I didn't want to yell out "NO I DON'T!!!" and make my mom feel like she was in an awkward position.

my sister had mentioned the idea to me and I told her I had never thought about having both parents walk me down the aisle and I would think about it. After much thought I realized that her bringing it up just confused me and I wanted to stick to just my dad walking me. I guess I never told her no I don't want both parents walking me down the aisle but she shouldn't have just assumed.

Kisalicious.. you make me crack up and that picture made me feel a lot better

I thought it was mom's job to stand, and therefore signal the guests to stand. Maybe you can pose it to her that way?

First of all, your sister had NO RIGHT, but it is now a moot point.

How about, you have your NOSY SISTER walk your mom down the aisle - as long as your brother did not want to?

You will still have to have the conversation with mom, but it might take the stress off of the situation. Put the thought in moms head that way.