My significant other hates weddings

It’s not weird for you to attend without him but it is odd if its decided that he won’t attend a wedding, ever

I think this depends on how close he is to the couple. If it's just, say, a work friend of yours or something, I don't think it's weird. But if were his close friend or relative then it would be kind of a dick move of him. There are ways to deal with social anxiety and he could make that effort to support loved ones.

View Quoted Comment I should have mentioned he said he will go to my brothers wedding (my brother isn’t even in a relationship yet but whenever/if ever it happens), but he doesn’t want to go to my friends wedding next summer. It’s a friend I haven’t seen in years so not a very close friend. Weddings for cousins we’ll play by ear depending on how big they are

I'm not a social creature myself, so I empathize with your SO. If the loud music and dancing is the problem, perhaps ask him if attending the ceremony only and not the reception would be alright?

In 15 years we have actually only attended 1 wedding together due to work commitments. It is never weird for a woman married or otherwise to attend any event on their own. However, if you don't feel comfortable or just miss his presence, then you need to compromise. Smaller/extra important events together, big bashes solo.

View Quoted Comment I considered this but if I can’t go to the reception and stay the majority of the time, I don’t think I should go at all… a few people did this at my sisters wedding and I felt like if they knew they had to leave really early (before dinner) they should’ve rsvp’d no and let us invite someone who wanted to be there the whole time

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I think this really depends on who is throwing the wedding then. If you are close enough to a person getting married to want to at least try to attend, then ask them how they would feel about just attending the ceremony. You never know, they may find it a relief that they don't have to pay for more food. Or, if they feel similarly to you, then you know and you don't need to worry about it.

I'm the same way. I hate crowds. I'm even wondering how I'll get through my wedding. I actually don't think it's weird for you to go large events without your SO. You can just explain to people that your SO doesn't feel comfortable around lots of people so they opted not to come. It's more common than most people think.