My shy brides, i want your opinion!

I also hate the idea of being the center of attention, I hate feeling like people are looking at me (which they obviously will be). I think what's going to get me through it is being able to focus on my FH entirely, he calms my nerves. And during the father/daughter dance, I'm fully expecting my dad and I to both be in tears so we'll be a bit distracted from the people around us lol. I know it's easier said than done, but try to put it out of your mind and focus on your spouse to be!

We are combining father daughter dance with mother son dance. My hubby is a horrible dance so it will surely take the attention off of me 😂

I am exactly the same and thinking about it scares me. The major part that scares me is walking down the aisle and all eyes are on me, hopefully I don’t start panicking. I’m walking down the aisle alone because I’m not close to my dad and he lives abroad. I’m skipping the father/daughter dance obviously and planning on inviting couples to join in half way on our first dance so it will take some pressure off. We’re 8 months away from our date and I’m trying not to think about it until that time comes. My MOH and I are trying to figure out a strategy to help my anxiety walking down the aisle. Good luck

I’m like this too. We actually asked other couples join us after the first minute or so of our first dance because I was getting so anxious having everyone stare at me 😂 it was actually really fun and special to have everyone join us!

I felt this way too but on the day of there was so much love around me that I didn’t have those feelings

I also hate being the center of attention. I don't like feeling like all eyes are one me. FH, in the nicest way possible, told me to get over it, because that's just the way it's going to be. I'm trying to tell myself I'll be fine as I'm walking down the aisle. I'll just be focusing on FH and looking to see if he'll be crying lol because I'm sure I will be! Other than that, I'm hoping I'll be fine. Our first dance, as well as the father/daughter dance, I won't be the sole focus of people's attention. I'm just going to keep telling myself to relax and breathe

You can cut some of the things short. E.g the first dance doesn't need to be the whole 3 minute song or whatever

View Quoted Comment My FH said the same thing 😂 he also tried to gently remind me that he has more family coming than me and they will probably be paying more attention to him, but i still get stressed!!

View Quoted Comment The idea of having other couples join in is new to me, but I love it!!

I'm like this as well. And being an introvert I hope I'm not drained visiting with guests most of the evening. I think as for walking down the aisle I'm just going to suck it up with my nerves but may consider a shot of liquid courage beforehand 😂

You don't have to do the dances if you don't want to. We're only doing the First Dance (which will be a fun and choreographed 90s number), and nixing the father/daughter and mother/son dances. I've never danced with my father (we're Asian), and I don't intend to.

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Just remember that everyone is there because they love and support you.
Focus strictly on your FH. The rest of the world will melt away.
Find a few minutes to escape and take a deep breath. Hide out in the bathroom if you need to. Take your FH to a dark corner and just swap a quick hug.
Give yourself positive talk. “I can do this” and “this is my special day and I’m going to enjoy it” are a better place to come at this from than “I hate being the center of attention”. Repeat positive things to yourself 50 times a day. It will sink in and work, I promise.
Remove things that you don’t need to do. For me, the prospect of my FH going up my dress for a garter to toss was mortifying. So we agreed to eliminate the bouquet and garter toss entirely.

I'm struggling with this BIG time right now. I'm actually considering a courthouse wedding just because I fear I won't remember my wedding day as the happiest day of my life if I'm miserable because of anxiety the whole time. I know for sure I'm not doing any dad-daughter mother-son dances and we probably won't have our "first dance" in front of everyone alone. I dread the walk down the aisle, but I'm worried if I don't do all of the traditional stuff, I'll regret not having a wedding one day. Just remember that its your wedding so make it however you want