My ring needs your help.

I can tell you what *I* would do in your position. I wouldn't try to find a band that fits the ring. You're already compromising on this ring, so I wouldn't want to compromise on the band also. I would get the wedding band of my dreams, then wear the engagement on my right hand after the wedding. Tons of women switch their e-ring to the right hand, or simply don't wear it at all after the wedding. I wouldn't say anything to anyone about it (no use needlessly bringing attention to it!). I would simply get the band of my choosing, then discreetly switch the e-ring over to the right hand after the wedding. If anyone notices/asks about it,

1. it will already be too late - what's done is done. And 2. you can simply say you were unable to find a band that would fit the unique shape of the ring

I think it's very sweet and admirable of you to keep the ring and not complain about it, even though it's not your personal taste. But since you're already compromising, I'd hate to see you settle for a band that you don't absolutely love! After all, you're going to be wearing the band for the rest of your life!

I like the idea of wearing them separate but there's one person I can't just quietly make the changes in front of without discussion, and that's my fiance. I am truly terrified of making him feel inadequate about it. It's not even the size or quality, it's a fine enough ring but because he placed the responsibility of choosing it in his mother's hands, I got something that she probably thought I would want, or that she wanted herself. And the ring doesn't feel like it belongs to the two of us.

I did find one enhancer that might save the day though. We're both into astronomy and it's this spirally abstract thing that I could see complimenting the ring a lot, as well as make it personal.

At the end of the day, there are other factors I've considered that you guys aren't privy to: we're on a budget, he's immigrating here and is tight on funds, as well as unable to stretch his currency like the dollar does. We can always replace or augment the rings later. It was the moment that mattered more than the ring itself. I negotiate all of these things because at the end of the day, the ring is meant to symbolize a partnership that will be full of compromises, and this is just another example of that.

I will never, not for one second, give him the impression that the ring is second-rate. There may be days I will not wear it, but it belongs on my left hand if it's on my person. But I truly appreciate the feedback, I do. It's a weird situation but I'm making the most of it.

I would go to a local jeweler/designer and see if what their suggestions are. You could find someone to work with to make something that compliments it well. Also, just trying on different rings is a great way to look as having them next to each other on your finger really provides the real picture. Maybe try searching on Instagram or even a quick google search.

Highly suggest a local jeweler if you're looking to stretch your dollar ours gave us the option of using estate sale 14k gold which saved us a ton (we literally just paid for the weight of the gold)

Love the pic you shared! Super unique and will definitely look amazing with your ring