My parents don't want to sit with FMIL

My parents will be at their own table, and his parents will be at 2 tables as far away from each other as possible. I don't think its a big deal

Mine and FH's families don't know each other at all so we plan on sitting them at their own tables. There will be other times for them to interact and talk to each other.

I've honestly never seen this done. The parents of the couple usually sit with their friends, not the other parents. Honestly, it's just fine.

I think it's a charming idea, really, but if they're not into it, then let them sit with the people they know.

I always thought it was more customary to have separate tables for the parents of the Bride and Groom. Each set of parents has their own table with their closest family/friends.

There is nothing really "customary" here - it up to individual families and what they prefer. My parents sat at a table with their own friends and relatives as did my husband's parents.

I think it should be up to your parents and his parents, not you. They are the ones sitting at the table and they should be able to enjoy spending time with their own families at the reception if that's what they prefer. Since your parents aren't happy, change the seating plan.

Thanks for easing my mind, guys. I was just worried people might think we were deliberately trying to separate them. Didn't wanna cause any unnecessary drama!

My dad will be at his own table with his closest family and so will my future in-laws.

Our parents each had their own table. Like your mom mentioned, they wanted to catch up with their friends and / or family instead of making awkward small talk. Our parents are very different people and would have felt like they had to be on their best behavior instead of enjoying themselves.

My parents have never meet my FH's father ( neither have I) Our family will be sitting with their immediate family members and friends. It's no big deal at all

I'm sitting all the parents at their own table with their choice of family or friends (both FH and my parents are divorced).

I've never heard of the idea of putting all the parents together. Every wedding I've been to or heard about, the brides parents had their table with their family and friends and the groom's parents had their table with their family and friends.

I say separate them and let your mom have who she wants at her table.

Every wedding I have been too, all 2 of them, both sets of parents sat together. We are sitting our parents together, it is just to eat and then they can mingle.

We separated our families for the same reasons.

OH...this is another example why I don't want to assign seats/tables... :/

My mom will be at a table with her side of the family and some of her friends. My dad/step mom will be at a table with his siblings/parents. My FILs will be seated with their family. All the tables will be toward the front and next to each other, but they will not all be sitting together.

My parents sat with my MIL and my SIL, my aunt, and I think a couple other in laws. But - my parent's friends weren't able to make it, my grandparents weren't there, so we needed to mix things up slightly as Husband's side is larger than mine. They get along though so it was fine! I think it's fine to split them up.

So we were talking about this as well and we are having our parents separated by family bc my FH’s mother and father are not together. They had him very young and never married and his step father raised him. although his parents are amicable FMIL has mentioned she def wants to sit w her parents and I just feel it might be a little awkward for everyone so we thought it was best to do 3 tables close to use w the families

It's more common to seat the parents with their families and guests. If they don't see each other often, there's no harm in seating parents with family/friends depending on the size of the tables. It's not a breach of etiquette to choose not to seat parents all at the same table.

I would never in a million years sit the in laws with my parents lol