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My Parents DO NOT Support my upcoming wedding

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Victoria, on April 4, 2012 at 2:33 PM

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Hello! I'm a 24 year old bride to be. My fiance is 22 almost 23 and we are getting married on October 27, 2012. My parents, especially my mother, have always been very critical, negative, judgmental, controlling people. I told my FH when we first started talking about marriage not to expect my family to be happy for us when we go engaged. And they weren't. When we told them, my daddy said I want you to wait two or three years. He also told me he didn't want me moving. He wants me to live beside him and my mother. I am moving and I am also planning on getting married in six months not three years. My fiance and I both have college degrees and jobs in our chosen fields. However, when we get married I will quit my job and become a housewife and prepare to have a family. It hurts me so bad that they are only looking at the superficial aspects and now what really matters. How do I tell them I'm getting married in six months? I dread the argument.

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Michele · on April 4, 2012 at 4:09 PM
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Wow, okay then, that is just a bit strange. My next question: are you an only child? I ask, because I am one, and I know when I was younger, my parents were a bit over-protective. My mother stayed up all night crying the day before I moved out into my own apartment. It made me feel like I was running away from home, and I was 20!

It's going to be tough, but you will just have to stand your own ground. It might be best if you can enlist the help of a very good friend, who has a tough streak as well. She can be there for you when mom gets a bit over-demanding. But you will, at some point, have to tell mom what her boundaries are. It's a part of indpendence!
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Victoria · on April 4, 2012 at 4:20 PM
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I am not an only child. I have a younger brother 16 months behind me in age. He has been engaged for over two years and is living with his fiance and my parents are practically forcing him to get married to "make the situation right." I am definitely not living with my fiance, but my mom tells me I am not spiritually ready to get married....explain that one?...It's just a big mess that I need/have to get out of in order to keep my sanity!
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