My parents can’t contribute to the wedding and i worry they won’t matter much at the weddjng

I don't think what they contribute to the wedding should have any baring on their involvement in the actual wedding day. Having your parents in attendance and participating in things like your mom getting ready with you or having a corsage or your dad walking you down the aisle or having a father daughter dance can still be a thing even if they aren't contributing. Now I will say my fil (husband's parents are divorced as well) didn't contribute and he did have little involvement, but that was because he chose to not be overly involved. He never really asked us anything about the wedding, he told us he had work instead of attending the rehearsal even though he knew about it in advance, etc, but again that's because he made the choice to limit his involvement. It had nothing to do with us excluding him because he didn't contribute. If you make the choice to involve them in things like I previously mentioned then there should be no reason they should feel left out. It sounds like you are letting others opinions of your parents wealth cloud your judgement.

I'm a male/groom not a bride.

Oops sorry about that. I should've realized that since your name is Anthony. But you can definitely still include your parents. Below are a few suggestions.

1. Have your dad go with you to pick out suits/tuxes if you are going to a physical location.

2. Have him get ready with you the morning of the wedding.

3. Include both parents in the processional. Your dad could walk down the aisle with your step-mom and your mom could either walk down the aisle with you or your step-dad.

4. A corsage for your mom and a boutonniere for your dad.

5. If you are doing a grand entrance at the reception include your mom with your step-dad as her escort and your dad with your step-mom has his escort.

6. One of my favorite pictures of my husband is with his mom pinning his boutonniere on.

7. Son and mom dad at the reception.

8. If either want to give a speech.

My parents and stepparents will be in the procession and will have corsages and boutonnieres.

My mom has said that since she didn't financially contribute to the wedding, she doesn't feel comfortable giving a speech or doing a mother/son dance.

Sadly, my mom feels she doesn't deserve to give a speech or do the mother/son dance since she didn't put any money into the wedding as a compared to my fiancee's parents

Do you want to dance with your mother, if the answer is yes tell her she s loved and supported you your whole life and that's the best form of payment you can ask for. Involvement in the wedding should not revolve around who contributes the most financially. Comparison is the thief of joy, let your mom know you want her to be a big part of your day and she's already given you more than you can ever repay. If you want your parents involved make sure they are and make sure they know how much you appreciate them and what they have done for you throughout the years.

Some ways to include them

Have a slide show during the cocktail hour with photos from both families

Toast them a thank you at the rehearsal dinner

Give a small gift at the rehearsal dinner

Ask for their help/opinions with little details

Have your dad help you pick out your suit

Get ready with them and take photos with them before the wedding

Dance with your mom

Do a thank you to them in the program

You can do a little nod them by serving their fave dessert , appetizer, or a custom drink

Weddings are about love and family, let them know you do not expect nor need a financial contribution and there is no reason anyone else should even know (aside from your partner, but what your parents can or cannot contribute is none of any other guests business). Wishing a you beautiful day filled with love and support!

Honestly, your parents' presence and support mean so much more than money ever could. The fact that your dad is doing the rehearsal dinner shows they care in the ways they can. Just make sure they feel included in special moments, trust me, that matters more than any dollar amount.