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Just Said Yes September 2022

My Mother vs My Future Husband

Casey, on March 17, 2021 at 3:16 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 8

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My mother hates my future spouse for no good reason other than "I liked all the other ones so if I hate this one then itll work out.." to me that's not a valid reason to tell my future husband that you hate him to his face. I need advice on how to do all this without the help of my mom since before I was dating my boyfriend she was so excited about my wedding and now she wont even speak to me about it. If you have any advice... please help.

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Latest activity by Pirate & 60s Bride, on March 18, 2021 at 12:05 AM

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Sexypoodle · on March 17, 2021 at 3:28 PM
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When you say “without the help of my mom” do you mean without her financial help? Or without her as a person to bounce ideas around?
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Veronica · on March 17, 2021 at 3:33 PM
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My advice would be to talk to those that do support your relationship with your fiancé. Since your mother isn't that person, I would only discuss things were her that actually effect her like when the ceremony starts or where the ceremony is unless she has a sudden change in heart I wouldn't include her in the details of your wedding because it doesn't sound like she would agree with anything.
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Casey · on March 17, 2021 at 3:45 PM
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Without her ideas and support. My entire wedding is coming out of my pocket.
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Casey · on March 17, 2021 at 3:46 PM
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It just hurts because I wanted my mother to be involved with this.. but shes been really unsupportive.
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Michelle · on March 17, 2021 at 4:12 PM
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It's ultimately up to you and fiance to plan. Many brides do not have a support system so take full advantage of the forums here.
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Veronica · on March 17, 2021 at 4:34 PM
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I'm so sorry. Unfortunately, it sounds like she isn't someone that should be involved in helping plan your wedding.
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Kelly · on March 17, 2021 at 7:21 PM
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So I had this same issue. My mom didn't like my fiancé at first and I couldn't figure out why especially since he was so much better than my ex-boyfriend. I finally had enough of her remarks and negativity and sat her down and talked it out. Her heart was in the right place as she was worried about long term stability for me but she was going about expressing that all wrong, on top of projecting her own bitterness about her unhappiness in her marriage on me as well. Once we hashed it all out and she really got to ACTUALLY know him she totally turned a page and now she loves him! I'm not sure if talking to your mom is an option or how well she handles conversations like that but I would definitely try to get to the root to the problem. I hope everything works out!
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on March 18, 2021 at 12:05 AM
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It’s sucks but many parents don’t the provide the support we wish they did. You & your fiancé just focus on planning the wedding you want, and hopefully she’ll be supportive the day of.
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