My mother is jealous of me...

I kind of went through a similar situation with my mom in the beginning. She is divorced from my dad, and at the time we got engaged, the relationship with the man she was dating was ending. She was very emotional the day we got engaged and she didn't give me the reaction I thought she would. She actually kind of lashed out at me and yelled at me for telling my dad first, but it was because we couldn't get a hold of her first. She wasn't really into things that I was planning until we did something that I knew SHE would enjoy. She and I had a date day where we went and she tried on some dresses for the wedding, then we had lunch and drinks together. We had a blast and ever since then, she's been much more excited for the wedding and has offered more input. She even did our cake tasting with us (which she also loved) and helped us pick our flavor. You have to remember nobody will ever be as excited about your wedding day as you, and it helps to give the people you want to show interest something that they will enjoy doing. It makes it feel more real to them.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. Nobody will be as excited about the wedding as you will be, even parents may not be as excited as youd hope. Is your mom usually a jealous person? Or is she just not as into weddings as you were hoping. Some people don't show excitement for wedding because it's not something they really are interested in especially when it's not theirs.

Your mom was left at the altar twice - of course she has conflicted emotions about weddings. Have a compassion for her and don't expect her to be head over heels excited about your wedding.

I did sit down with her. I did express how I felt. She is normally a downer when it comes to anything positive and progressive for me. I did express to her that I do understand that this may be a bit difficult for her and there are emotions that she may be experiencing. I am not expecting her to be over the top or super excited. But some sort of reactions other than negative or no reaction at all would be nice. She came out and asked me, "Why do you even need to get married? I don't see the point of it. You've been together for almost 5 years. Is it really necessary?" I am just trying to figure out why she cannot be happy for me in the slightest...

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Never expected her to be head over heels. I never even expected her to give me any input, be overly excited for me, or help me with anything. I am only hoping to hear a positive comment or share in some sort of happiness that her daughter is happy.

You know your mom and her behavior seems pretty consistent (based on what you have shared). I know it's sad, but you are only hurting yourself if you keep thinking your wedding is going to change her personality. Counseling might help you come to terms with her fundamental negatively, you might learn how not to rely on her approval for your happiness.