My mom's Church throwing me a bridal shower - normal?

I'm not a church goer but its typically rude to invite people to a wedding event when they're not invited to the actual wedding. Especially one that's really just for gifts.

If the people of the church are volunteering to throw you the bridal shower, that's fine. Lots of brides have had bridal showers at work thrown by co-workers even though they weren't invited to the wedding. As long as someone else isn't hosting and inviting non-wedding guests to the event, it's perfectly fine. Unless you think that these ladies are going to be expecting an invite to the wedding and that's why they're throwing you a bridal shower? How close are you with these women?

I don't think so if they choose to throw. It's like co workers throwing you a celebration even if they are not invited. Just maybe have your mom tell them no gifts able maybe your mom can throw another shower for actual wedding guests. Some people just want to celebrate your happiness even if not invited. That's my co workers.

I grew up in the church and now attend a different church from my parents.
If your mother is like mine, she’s very excited about the wedding and has been talking about it a lot and her friends are so excited for her that they want to be a part of something. I’d suggest doing 2 bridal showers: the one that they throw you and then the one with wedding people (you’d have to communicate this with your mum though).

This is normal. Work places also may throw showers despite being invited or not being invited.

For a lot of family-style, small community churches, it's normal. As long as they know in advance they aren't invited to the wedding (your mom can figure out how to address that) then it's fine.

The women's ministry at my church threw a bridal shower for one of the women getting married and we weren't invited to the wedding. I think this is normal. Enjoy it! You're only engaged for so long.

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Well put and I second this thought! To add - depending on what part of the country you are from - when our parents were married, people often were invited to a shower as a celebration of the bride and those person(s) relationship with the bride regardless if they were invited to the wedding or not. Yes, having close church (or other) ladies asking your mom to host a shower is normal and I would also consider if this is something you want to make a big deal about or not.