My mom

Do you have any cousins, sons, friends or uncles you are really close to who you can ask to fill in?

No cousins, 1 unlce left but his health isnt the greatest.

Hello my situation is somewhat the same I kno my father but our relationship is strained. My momms passed away 2years ago. I figured my brothers would be ideal because we went through this together. And my brothers are very dear to me. To share a special moment like this I chose to share it with my brothers. Or someone thats dear to you can give you away. We dont have to have a father daughter dance. Dance with the ones you love ❤

I'm sorry about your situation. I have never had to live without my parents, so i can't even imagine what it's like trying to plan a wedding without them ❤️❤️
I do have my father to walk me down the isle, and he is doing so partially because I like the tradition and partially because he is the person I trust to get me there. I trust him to walk me and keep me steady, he has been there for me when I was in my highest and lowest moments.
You dont honestly need someone to walk you down the isle, many brides choose not to. If you'd like someone to hold your hand and keep you strong down the isle choose someone you trust and love and who you know feels the same about you. It doesn't have to be a blood relation. Choose someone you think of as family.
Afterthought: if there is someone you think could fit the bill from your fiance's side of the family you could also do that.

Losing a parent can be the hardest part. My best friend lost her dad when we were seniors in high school, and one of the first things she said to her mom when they went to see his body one last time was “who will walk me down the aisle now when I get married?” it’s an important part.


Do you have any close family friends who would do it for you?

I have a close friend who is like a brother to me but I feel like that takes away from when he has to walk his daughter down the aisle. This has been hard on me trying to figure this out.

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I don't think it would take away from his daughter's wedding!

What about your FH's father? My FH's father offered to walk me down the aisle, so maybe that is an option for you?

As for your first dance, is there someone you are particularly close too? Best friend? Aunt? Cousin? I don't think gender really matters... maybe even a "group dance" around you of the important people who have helped you through the tough times.

My fiancee is having her best guy friend stand in if we do the dance we haven't decided as neither of our fathers are alive.

My father and grandfathers have also passed away, so have many others in my family. My brother gave me away at my first wedding and before I even asked he told me he didn't want to. I hadn't planned to ask. I am having one of my future stepsons give me away. He was very happy I asked. His biological mother vanished because of drugs years ago, and his former stepmom who was supposed to help raise him was horrible to him. He has two young sons he already says i'm the grandma of.

We are not doing a daddy daughter dance, or a groom/groom's mom dance because his parents have passed away. What we're doing is having a memorial dance, and he'll dance with one or both of his surviving sisters, and i'll dance with my brother or uncle.

My FH wants to have a son/mother dance, and I dont want to take that away from him. Im hoping to figure something out, we have time (10-31-20). Thank you.

First off Carrie, i'm so sorry that you have this type of situation to think of.

Secondly, i can relate...i'm kinda in a similar boat, my mom died 5 years ago and my dad died in May. I have no brothers, i have no uncles in good health to help, i have no grandparents left.

I considered walking down the aisle alone but i recently went to a wedding as a guest and felt my stomach clench when we all stood for the bride to enter and put myself in her shoes wearing a big poofy dress, trying not to fall with everyone staring.

I considered asking my sister who is my MoH to walk with me but i don't think she should, i don't have any brothers either. I'm thinking i'm gonna ask my aunt to walk with me, but she's pretty old so it might be me walking her instead...i also considered asking one of my male cousins or my Future Father-in-law who i've always had a really good relationship with walk with me. But chances are i'm gonna ask my aunt.

my FH suggested our dog lol.

as for the dance - i'm not gonna do one - i dk if my fiance is doing one with his mom as she's not into that stuff. If he decides to do it then that's fine, it's only a couple minutes and not worth taking their moment away. No where does it say you HAVE to have one or follow all these traditions. I just am not gonna do one. We are planning to fill some time with doing the shoe game.

Also, for me, i'm doing a memorial table for everyone not around for our wedding that's passed on already and maybe something during the ceremony (we're getting married late october though so i dk what other than a candle lighting)

Im going to def do a memorial/tribute to my mom, grandma, and aunt he will do one for his gma. I may ask a close guy friend almost like a brother to dance with me. My mom and i were close, when i lost her i was crushed knowing she wouldnt be here for this or her grand children. I knew my grandmother would still be around, 2 years ago this September i lost her to parkensens/alzheimers and lost my world/rock. This has been hard but I know I will come up with something.

View Quoted Comment I have a similar situation: However, my “alleged” Brother is the child of my PU (Paternal Unit and because he stinks as a Father) and the person that he married after my Mother Divorced his pathetic, chronic cheating behind. I don’t believe that he’s actually my 1/2 sibling. If she was sleeping with him while he was married to someone else, then she was probably sleeping with someone while married to him. PS: He’s on his 3rd wife, was asked to leave my Mother’s Funeral, and better not even walk by my venue or we will make the news.

Oh, since my Mom can’t walk me, we are doing something different, which I will reveal after the Wedding.

View Quoted Comment My heart goes out to you my friend. Losing my great grandmother, my aunt and my mom within weeks of each other. Three deaths back to back. And losing my mom in top of al tht. Omg crushed was an understatement. It's been two years now and I'm healing everyday. Just keep doing what your doing I know your Angel's are very proud of the woman you are. You are a reflection of them. Like I'm a reflection of my loved ones. BIG BIG HUUUUUGS ❤💫🙏🏾

Can your maid of honor walk down with you? Or maybe the officiant. Or just go solo and make a dramatic entrance.
And as for father/daughter dance replacements, you could dance with your father-in-law, or dedicate another song to your FH in addition to your first dance. Or dance with your MOH.
If you have that one Male friend who you would ask, but you're questioning whether it would take away from his daughter's wedding, I would ask him how he felt before you assume he wouldn't want to. My dad was a groomsman in my brother's wedding and walked with me down the aisle. We joked about it being either a practice run or the replacement if I never get married. I don't think it took anything away because it is a completely different situation, different group of people, and so many years apart.

What about having your future father in law walk you down the aisle or a best friend? Who are the most important/influential people in your life; one of these people could walk you down the aisle? For the family dance, you could share that with these same people that come to mind.