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My mom won't let it go

Kyra, on September 1, 2019 at 3:21 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 7

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I'm 25 and will be 26 on the big day so even though I no longer live at home my mother is still a big part of my life. So my mom wants me to have a church wedding and rec hall reception while I'm currently planning a garden wedding with the reception indoors on the same property. Everytime I ask her for advice on bridesmaid dresses or decor or anything she advises me to go completely against my vision and my color scheme. I'm not feeling supported at all and am afraid to take her wedding dress shopping with me because I don't want to ugly cry throughout the entire experience. I want this mother daughter moment but I don't want to have to give up my dream wedding for her to be happy. Help me please.

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Latest activity by Alex, on September 5, 2019 at 1:26 PM

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Laura · on September 1, 2019 at 3:25 PM
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Stop talking about the wedding with her. It’s not productive and sounds rather negative. Maybe go wedding dress shopping with your MOH. It sounds like she would ruin that too. You can’t force a ‘mother/daughter moment’ out of someone determined to be contrary.
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Caytlyn · on September 1, 2019 at 3:39 PM
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I would stop discussing details with her. Before taking her dress shopping, have a chat and let her know that you’d love to have her there, but you also want a positive experience. Tell her that if she can’t express her opinion in a constructive way, you’d prefer if she didn’t come.
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Cyndy · on September 1, 2019 at 4:05 PM
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If she cannot respect your wishes then you may need to stop providing her with so much information. If you really want her to go dress shopping, I would sit down and talk to her ahead of time and explain to her that she needs to let you do what you want and be supportive or you do not want her to go with you. Maybe if you stop sharing information with her she will ask what’s wrong and you can tell her that you do not feel supported. It’s your day and you should do what makes you happy
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Dedicated September 2021
Kyra · on September 1, 2019 at 8:14 PM
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It makes me sad but I know I can’t deal with this for the next year leading up to my wedding. Thanks ladies.
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Sharon · on September 2, 2019 at 5:20 AM
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Has your mom always been like this? If not, she may be having a hard time realizing you're entering a new phase of your life where she may feel you won't need her anymore or is feeling left out of things. Maybe you can take her lunch or something and have a heart to heart with her. Let her know how you feel about her comments and that she'll always be your mom and have a special place in your life.
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Just Said Yes March 2020
Krystal · on September 4, 2019 at 3:43 PM
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Kyra, we're on the same boat!!!!!
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Alex · on September 5, 2019 at 1:26 PM
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Go shopping with out her first. Figure out what you like. Then if it is important to have her there when you buy, take her back on a second trip. You can try on a few of the top choices, but not have her run wild. The attendances at the shop will help you out with this!
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