My mom showed my dress off

I understand where you are coming from and you have a right to be upset but honestly I would be mad and then move on. Maybe do not share things with them you do not want them to share since they cannot be trusted. At least they did not show your FH. I also say when you're ready and maybe talk to them about how them doing that was highly disrespectful and a breach of your trust.

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Thank you. I think I just need to have the dust settle for now. Much appreciated.

First, I absolutely hate this for you. My mom showed my dress to my aunt, who subsequently showed it to my grandma. No big deal because that’s where the chain ended, but I was a little upset because I specifically only brought my FMIL and mom to the appointments to keep the hype down about my dress.


However, what’s done is done now. I would make a point to tell your mom (again), aunt, sisters, and anyone else who knows/has the pics that it’s super important to you to have the dress be a surprise and that you’d really be hurt if your wishes weren’t followed. I doubt the picture will be shared much further than what you’ve described, and NOTHING will compare to the full look the day of your wedding including your hair, makeup, veil, etc. with the dress as the store try on pics.
Moving forward you now know disclosure is not their best suit, and if there are other components of your look, you should probably just keep them to yourself or only allow pics to be taken with your phone.

Oh my gosh I so feel you on this!!! I only brought my sister/MOH and mom with my dress shopping because I want my dress to be a huge surprise. Like this was KNOWN to all of us and we all discussed how no one would be seeing pictures. They even saw me tell people that I wouldn’t be showing them. Then I see my sister after she visited her in laws for the holidays and she goes “btw they all love your dress” and I just freeze. Like WHAT THE HECK. I’m still so mad about it but I haven’t said anything because her husband was also there and didn’t want to make him feel awkward. I’m just so mad!! It’s not your dress to show people so don’t?! Ugh.


I would tell them to delete the pictures off their phone or do it for them. That’s what I’m doing when I see my sister next lol.

I so agree with you on this!! I only allowed my moh’s and mom to take pictures of me in my dress and made it very clear I wanted no one to see it. Sorry you’re going through this😕

Ugh! I completely sympathize. The same thing happened to me- my mother took pics and sent them to her sisters (she has 7 of them!), who all also showed them to their daughters. So basically everyone has seen my dress. And bonus points: she also told everyone when I got engaged before I had a chance to tell anyone. Needless to say, she will not have photos of anything else having to do with the wedding 🤦🏼‍♀️

Oh Maureen, I feel awful for you!! why in the world would another woman, WHO KNOWS what a special day this is for us brides, to find out dream dresses, and send pictures to the world, UNBELIEVABLE, I was in fear of that happening to me, so I only allowed my MOH, a trusted friend, to my fittings, my ❤️ goes out to you!!!!

I totally get it! My mom showed everybody (literally everybody-like the checkout lady at the grocery store everybody) a picture of me in my dress. Luckily my fiancé was not included in the everybody 😉. Now my dress is at her house because we don’t have the closet space and I discovered she’s been taking it out of the bag to show people! Not cool! Especially since she has two cats which I’m so allergic to I get all swollen if I’m around their dander 😩. Just remember that your mom is just super excited and proud and means well and you’ll look different in person than in the pictures.

Ugh! I get where you’re coming from. My FMIL showed it to both my FSIL and their aunt! I was not happy either. I just wanted to show it to my FMIL, GMA, mom. That was suppose to be it and wanted to surprise everyone else with it!


Not only that but my FMIL was sending pictures of every dress to have both FSIL tell me if they liked them or not... which annoyed me as my opinion is the only opinion that mattered. But to her, apparently not lol

This is exactly why I was SO adamant that no one took pictures with their phones while I was dress shopping. When I found the dress I wanted, I gave them MY phone to take pictures of it. I didn't want anyone having photos of my dress other than me. I'm so sorry this happened! Your wedding is still a good ways away, so hopefully those that have seen it will hardly remember what it looks like. Just breathe and try to move forward from this

I do think it's odd she lied to you, and that she did after you requested it. However, I'm not sure this is worth the fight with your mom and sister. People get excited to see wedding dresses, I've had plenty of people show me pictures before their wedding & I showed a ton of people. The only person who shouldn't see is your fiance. Plus even the people that saw will still be excited on your wedding day, you'll be all done up & have accessories & look way more bridal.

Ugh, what is it about these Momzillas? I'm so sorry she did that. I think a reminder is definitely in order, for both your mom AND your sister, and as long as FH doesn't see the dress that's the most important part. After remind them, definitely just walk away from it. There's nothing you can do about it now, except buy a new dress! And if you're not going to do that (I would, but I'm petty as heck, lol) then just pretend it didn't happen and be excited. The dress isn't the most important part, after all, and you will look like a million bucks and won't care in 10 months when all is said and done. The wedding is one day. Our moms are our moms forever (even if they get on our nerves sometimes).

The same thing happen to me, it's a nightmare and I'm thinking of removing my older sister out of my wedding.

Depending on how far away your wedding is… do what I did. Sell your dress online or see if the store will make trades or exchanges. I got a really simple dress at first and then my mom started showing everyone after I asked her not to. I went back by myself and got a whole new dress 😂 no one knows. I think she’ll get the hint.