I got engaged last summer. A week after our engagement, his moms choked at a BBQ and passed away. FH and I still went ahead with planning because we don't want to be engaged forever. My mom has been with her guy for two years and on NYE he proposed to her. Even though I'll be 24 next month, I had/have a hard time accepting that my mom is remarrying (my dad left when I was 9, and it's only been her, my brother, and me since. So letting someone into our click is hard for me). Either way, I'm trying to just be happy for her and supportive (because I really deep down am). I'm getting married in October. My mom tells me she's getting married in May. At first I could careless that she was getting married before me and I understand why. They're older, he has his own home, and it's second time around for both. The plan for their wedding was going to be a small church service with immediate family only, and then perhaps a BBQ or we'd go out to dinner after. Now, apparently, it has turn to this bigger wedding of 75 people, with a real reception (to a degree). In her FBIL backyard (it's huge) with all the basic shabangs of a wedding. And every time we say something about it she always go, "well it is a big day," or, "it's going to be fancy." At this point, I'm just highly annoyed.
I know its completey ridiculous to feel this way. By this time next year, I'll be at home with FH and not even remember I felt this way. I think I'm just upset because I'm not able to enjoy my enagagment as much as I should (FMIL's passing, his house going into foreclosure-he still lived at home- having to clear out the whole house because his dad refused, and no not out of grief. Having to give away his childhood cats because his dad didn't want them. Btw, they were still married). They are attached to the hip, which is amazing and I'm so happy that she has someone to click with and love, but it comes to a point where she won't acknowledge anybody else either. If we're taking and he calls, she immediately answers and that's the new conversation. If we're at the dinner table and I try to start a conversation with her, and she thinks of something to tell him, she'll interrupt me to talk to him. I don't think I've actively hung out with my mom in months. We were supposed to go to a bridal expo this Sunday, just her and me, but his nephew is on life support due to sirosis and she has to be with him for that. Which I completely understand!! But I'm still bummed that our one on one time got pushed to the side again.
On top that, I need to help her with everything. I created the invitations, I downloaded their catering menu, etc. it's just bleh.
Im really sorry for the extremely long rant. It did feel really good to get it off my chest. Thank you to anyone who reads
