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My mom is driving me nuts!!

Kelsey, on February 5, 2020 at 10:38 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 10

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Today I told my mother about our cake tasting that I scheduled. I told her we were able to choose two flavors to try to see what we wanted for our cake. One of the options we chose to taste test was funfetti. My mom threw an absolute fit and ended up telling me she hates funfetti, its for 5 year olds, and that it will be a joke of a wedding cake. It honestly really hurt my feelings. I'm very open to others opinions, but I feel that she could have expressed herself in a way that wasn't so hurtful. Especially considering we didnt even actually choose a flavor yet, this is just for the taste test. I asked her to next time please word her concerns in a better way, or not say anything at all, and now shes mad at ME! Is anyone else dealing with this? I just don't know what to do now.

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Latest activity by Erin, on February 7, 2020 at 11:58 AM

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Ka-Rina · on February 5, 2020 at 11:09 PM
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Just get a fanfetti cake!!! Lol kidding
Or not...I'd move forward w the tasting and if u both truly love fanfetti cake so be it.
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Mrs.hays · on February 5, 2020 at 11:18 PM
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It’s your wedding! If you want funfetti cake than do it! I personally would love to go to a wedding where they had it.
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Melle · on February 5, 2020 at 11:57 PM
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Gosh she made a fuss about cake FLAVOR? esp of one you didn't even choose yet? Gosh.
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on February 6, 2020 at 12:50 AM
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Funfetti would be FUN and delicious for a wedding! Ignore her and stop sharing details with her. Throwing tantrums when it’s not even your wedding = no more details for you! 😡
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Wendi · on February 6, 2020 at 6:37 AM
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Stop sharing all your details with her. Worked for me 😊
It really is unfortunate when people feel the need to interject their own ideas on you. The only way I can control things, is control whom I choose to share with. It really does work. Just give a small highlight each time she asks and be brief! Good luck and congrats on hour upcoming nuptial
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Brittany · on February 6, 2020 at 10:48 AM
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Yes stop sharing all the details if she can’t be supportive and positive and or express her opinion in a respectful way. I feel you girl, mine freaked out because we’re not doing a champagne toast because 1. My FH and I hate champagne and 2. Everyone will already have drinks and it’s an added expense.

Also funny you said funfetti because one of the layers of our cake will be funfetti because it’s FH favorite. My mom rolled her eyes on that one..
ITS YOUR DAY. don’t let people get under your skin or question your decision. Do what YOU AND FH want
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Allyson · on February 6, 2020 at 11:05 AM
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My mom does stuff like this all the time and it drives me CRAZY. Is your mom helping you pay for your wedding?
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Kaitlyn · on February 6, 2020 at 1:13 PM
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Funfetti is my favorite kind of cake, and it’s your wedding, so I wouldn’t take it too hard because it’s up to you to choose what makes you happy. I think a funfetti wedding cake would be really fun
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Kelsey · on February 6, 2020 at 1:36 PM
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Yes, her and my dad are paying for basically all of it. Which is why I bite my tongue most of the time, but this is just ridiculous. She was so mean about a flavor I haven't even officially chosen.
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Erin · on February 7, 2020 at 11:58 AM
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My Mom can get like this too. She freaked out when I told her we were thinking about not doing favors. She isn't helping to pay for the wedding so in my mind she doesn't get a say with the final decisions. I agree with the others though....stop telling her everything. I'm still learning this, but it's starting to work. Also, I'm glad you asked her to word things differently in the future. I had a conversation like this with my Mom recently where I asked her to be more aware of the words she used, and yes, she got mad at me too. In the end we both got over it and she was just upset that she upset me. I've been told that weddings bring out some weird reactions/emotions....this is 100% accurate. Stay strong and remember that this day is about you and your FH.
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