My moh can't spend $ but won't let anyone else plan my bach party

My MOH is great. We have been friends for years and I love her lots, but we aren't the closest and she is a bit sensitive so I have a bit of trouble speaking directly with her. I want to start off by saying that I completely understand financial issues and in no way do I expect any of my bridesmaids to spend hundreds of dollars for my Bachelorette party or even attend. However, my MOH is trying to plan a Bachelorette party for me but I believe she has a very small budget. I do understand limited budgets as I am currently in school full time and I have struggled with paying for Bachelorette trips in the past.


I'm not sure what the trip is as she won't let me know anything that is going on but I told her I would like to go to the beach. She just asked if I was free in a range of 10 days. My SIL and bridesmaid brought up some concerns to me as my MOH seems to be having a hard time finding an inexpensive place to stay for a 3 day long trip for 6 girls. I asked her to reach out to help her and my MOH shut her down. For reference, my MOH thinks $40/night for each girl at a nice townhouse minutes from the beach is too expensive. This is including my portion as I am more than willing to pay for mine since it would be an out of town trip. I don't know how to approach her as she is trying to make sure everyone is happy with where they go when frankly I dont think you need everyone's permission. My MOH and all of my bridesmaids have full time jobs and most of them think $40/night is very reasonable and I do as well, even as a college student who works around 5 hours a week. I don't know what her budget is and I would love to help her out but she's sensitive about spending money and it's just stressing me out that she won't talk to me about it and I don't know how to tell her that $40 on the beach is pretty reasonable. If it's something that she can't afford I have no issue, and if she can't go either that is still fine, but it is where I would like to go and I wish she would just tell me instead of looking at cheaper and cheaper places and deciding to do something conpletely different than what I would like. I don't mean to come off as obnoxious or demanding at all and I am trying to be as flexible as possible. I have so much on my plate with planning a wedding in grad school, studying for post graduation career building exams, and dealing with a nut case of a MIL that is throwing tantrums because I told her no about something stupid.