My MOH is my middle sister and when I first asked her, she was as excited as I was to be getting married. To be honest, she was the only one on my side of the family that was supportive of my upcoming wedding. When did it change? I truly believe it changed when they (my family) realized it wasn't about them. I have the type of family that is borderline selfish and if I can't give to them, they don't want to be a part of my life. (That is how it feels anyway). So to make a very long story short, There were three instances that led up to this situation.
1. She asked me for money one random day and I wasn't able to let her borrow anything. She got upset and basically told me that I am selfish because she knows I get paid a lot and I just don't want to help her. My family basically drew up a conclusion that I am rich and just have it to give away which is FAR from the truth. (Strike one)2. She was late to the bridal fitting. I am a stickler for appointments. I just think it is rude to waste other peoples time. She came late, complained and tried to rush the process because she had something to do afterward. (Strike 2)3. Over the weekend, said sister wanted to use my pool passes and house to throw my nephew (not her son) a party for his birthday. I happily obliged and had no issue with it. This same Saturday was the only opportunity to have all my bridesmaids together to pick out their dresses so I made an early appointment to accommodate everyone and not have anything interfere with the birthday party. They (my MOH and baby sister who was dependent upon my MOH to drive her) did not make it to the appointment, but somehow made it to my house a couple of hours later to have the party. The party was suppose to start at 12. I ran some errands and texted around 3pm to see what time the party would start to wind down... I mean it is my fiance's and my house. She proceeded to tell me that she wouldn't be done anytime soon and that I should just deal with it. I explained that I would like the party to end around 7:30 and the texts that I got from her were not only shocking but confusing seeing as though she was using my house. I mean there were so many 'f' words and 'lols' in that message to the point where I just told her not to ask me for anything else and to be out my house by 7:30pm. (Definitely Strike 3)
She texted around 9pm saying that she wants nothing to do with my wedding or being a maid of honor. I think she was honestly trying to hurt me but this behavior isn't new and to be honest is somewhat expected. So despite how my mom feels (she wants her in the wedding) she is not welcome in my wedding. Of course, I would like for her to come but that is her choice.
Sorry this rant is long. Just know that this is a mild summary of everything that has happened in the last couple of months. I just really needed to get it off my chest and let it go and move forward.
