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Christel, on October 1, 2019 at 5:01 PM

Just a little rant. We got engaged valentines day and decided on Oct 17 2020 for our day as we are paying for everything ourselves. I am 39 and this is my only wedding. I would never ask any of my family to finance the wedding because they cant and shouldn't. But they all treat me like a bridezilla because I want my wedding to be nice and not bargain basement. They also have told me numerous times that it's silly for me to be buying things and signing contracts this early. Arg they are really frustrating me. Ok rant over

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Natalie · on October 2, 2019 at 1:51 PM
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I love the term "information diet" haha
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Elizabeth · on October 2, 2019 at 1:59 PM
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I booked most of my major vendors in August/September 2018 for my November 2019 wedding. There were no October Saturdays left already at my venue at that point! If the people telling you this got married a long time ago, they may just not realize how it is now - my parents planned their wedding (1991) in 3 months, and my in-laws (1984) in 6!
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Fmv · on October 2, 2019 at 2:30 PM
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Its definitely not to early!! I am getting married October 23rd 2020 and i booked my venue February 2019, already bookee photographer, caterer, hair and makeup. Ive found that October is a very popular month and things book up so fast
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Andrea · on October 2, 2019 at 2:41 PM
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The main thing I would suggest is to refrain from talking about your wedding planning to family and friends, especially those who tend to be more opinionated than others. You really are about a year off, and lots of vendors get booked up even before a full year. It's crazy and you're not crazy for booking now. It pains me with when family who isn't contributing in any way thinks that they can tell you what to do or NOT to do with your wedding plans. Keep doing your thing. Wedding planning should be a fun time. So, have fun!
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Christina · on October 2, 2019 at 8:12 PM
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Three days after my engagement my photographer, venu and DRESS was picked. Your fine. My advice is not involve to many people in your business.
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Nicole · on October 3, 2019 at 11:53 AM
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Just stop telling them things if they keep responding with negative comments. I have a similar engagement period to you and I was signing contracts within a month of being engaged lol. You plan your dream day
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Elle · on October 3, 2019 at 11:53 AM
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It is definitely not too early. October is a very popular month, and everything will be booked if you wait too long. I got engaged June 2019 and got my reception and church booked the end of that month. Our wedding is August 2020, and we have all major vendors booked already - Photographer, DJ, Florist, and I already have my dress (well, it needs to come in, but I already paid my deposit for it lol).
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Desiree · on October 3, 2019 at 4:10 PM
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This is something I've really struggled with as well. I feel scolded left and right for the decisions I've made in regards to the wedding. My fiancé and I are splitting the costs of everything as well. At first it really upset me, but I've learned to brush it off entirely. These people are attendees, and though they mean a lot to you, this is not their day. It is your day. You cannot let anyone ruin that for you. The only thing that matters is the happiness of you and your FH. I know I'm preaching to the choir on this one, but you'll eventually let all of this slide off your back - I believe it just takes time. I hope they come around though, for your sake
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Desiree · on October 3, 2019 at 4:14 PM
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That term is golden lol.
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Emma · on October 4, 2019 at 3:07 PM
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I got engaged on New Years and getting married April 2020. I had just about everything but the caterer booked by March. The caterer was booked in July. We are paying on everything and want to make sure we have the time to do it. Because we went ahead and did it so early we already have a lot of stuff paid off.
I keep getting told to relax because I have plenty of time. I think it seems like a lot of time because they aren't in the middle of planning an entire wedding lol.
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