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My Grandmother is not attending our wedding.

Kateland, on September 18, 2016 at 4:34 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 13

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What do I do? My Grandmother sent back her RSVP with a "sorry I can't make it." My dad offered to pick her up and take her home ( she is 85 and lives in Las Vegas) mind you she still spends her nights smoking drinking and gambling up to 2am. I did visit her in May and at that time her companion didn't even know we were getting married... I did call her which she ignored and hasn't called back. What should I do my dad will not call her and ask why she can't make it... do I let it go?

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Latest activity by Taryn, on September 18, 2016 at 8:31 PM

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AlmostMrsE · on September 18, 2016 at 4:35 PM
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Let it go.
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BeachDreams · on September 18, 2016 at 4:36 PM
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Im sure it hurts, but sadly you cant "make" her come if she doesnt want. How has you relationship with her been recently?
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Jessinlove · on September 18, 2016 at 4:37 PM
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Let it go. She already said she can't make it.
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bluejay · on September 18, 2016 at 4:37 PM
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I feel like there is more to this. Are you guys close (both emotionally and distance-wise)?
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RealLindseyO · on September 18, 2016 at 4:38 PM
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What's the other option? Of course you'll just have to let it go. You can't force her to come. Sorry she's being distant about it, I'm sure you want her there.
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Stephanie Danielle · on September 18, 2016 at 4:41 PM
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Let it go. This is a special day. You don't need anyone there who may not want to be there. It will only cause bad vibes and you don't need that. I'm in a similar situation with a family member. I'll ask once. I'm not going to beg or chase anyone to share this day with me.
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KristenBeez · on September 18, 2016 at 4:43 PM
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She's an adult and just can't make it for some reason. Let it go. Maybe something came up.
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FutureMrsBuchanan · on September 18, 2016 at 5:11 PM
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Let it go...let it go
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WaffleBread · on September 18, 2016 at 5:11 PM
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I agree.. traveling may not be something she wants to do. I'm sure she is still sending her blessings and love. Focus on other planning!
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futuremrsP · on September 18, 2016 at 5:27 PM
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Let it go, Focus on your loved ones who will be attending.
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WeddingBelle · on September 18, 2016 at 5:31 PM
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An RSVP is a definitive yes or no (unless something comes up last minute). She said no. That's that. I know it probably sucks, but you've got to just accept her answer, move on, and enjoy your day with the people who can make it.
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Zoe · on September 18, 2016 at 8:29 PM
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Kateland-- I feel for you-- my grandpa told me, flat out, he wouldn't be coming to my wedding, a year out, we didn't even have a date, he was in great health and traveled a lot-- I was floored and hurt. But on the Big Day, I had so many people I love, who did make the effort to be there, I didn't even think about him.
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Taryn · on September 18, 2016 at 8:31 PM
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I'm sorry she isn't coming, I would feel hurt as well. I don't think there is anything you can do. She is the one missing out and it will just be a reminder to appreciate the guests that took the time out of their lives to celebrate with you even more
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