My friend is too ill to be a bridesmaid. How can i make her a part of the wedding?

I was at a wedding recently and someone special to the couple couldn’t attend so someone else read a speech she had written. You could prerecord the speech form your friend or have someone read it.

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This is an awesome idea!

These are the situations where it would be good to livestream your ceremony so she can see it.

Can she attend as a guest? That is a huge honor.

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This is a great idea.

I'd like to follow up and add another thought in the same vein.

If she isn't comfortable writing/able to write a speech, you could also ask her to select a reading that will be part of the ceremony. (You could give her the option between speech and reading.) Not suggesting she is the reader - I assume from the fact she is unable to be a bridesmaid, that she would be unable to do this as well. Instead, she could select a reading that will be read by your officiant, and if you are having ceremony programs you could note it. Like:

Ceremony Reading
"Buried Light" by Beau Taplin
selected by Jane Goodfriend

As someone with 3 chronic illnesses, I feel for your friend 😭 Is her coming an absolute no at this point or is there something you can do to make it so she can at least attend? Like is there a way you can accommodate her needs, so that way she can make it? If so, that’d make making her feel special much easier. However, if she can’t come at all then I think having her pre-record a speech that could be played at the wedding (possibly during when other speeches are given) would be great! Another idea would be during that same time to have someone put it on zoom and/ or FaceTime her to see the speeches being given & maybe give her some type of shoutout. It’s definitely a challenging situation, but honestly I’m sure she’ll appreciate you going out of your way to do anything (at least I know I would)! Praying for your friend though & sending her a ton of love + healing vibes 💕 I understand how difficult these things can be, as I had to move my wedding date because of my 3rd chronic illness diagnosis (+ covid didn’t help). If she ever needs someone to talk to, feel free to send her my way ❤️ & wishing you the happiest wedding day filled with an abundance of love, peace, & joy 🥰✨