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January 2018

My friend is buying an almost identical dress!

Private User, on February 3, 2018 at 12:27 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 22

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My friend is getting married about 3 months after me. She bought her dress a year before I did but I know she was already second guessing it. Flashforward to me buying my dress and I showed it to her. She immediately said how jealous she is and how she wants a new dress. Well, she went dress shopping and showed me photos of the dresses she looked at/wants. Our dresses will be almost identical. I'm trying to not be annoyed because I know that obviously other dresses will look like mine, I guess I just wish she would have told me first instead if acting like nothing is weird. I also wonder what she would have come up with if I hadn't shown her mine. It's hard to think it's just a coincidence that they look the same.

Please be nice WW. I'm not going to ask her to buy a new dress, I'm well aware people will have similar styles. Im not gonna ruin our friendship over this. I'm just looking for words of encouragement here.

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Master May 2018
Forestwed · on February 3, 2018 at 12:33 PM
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She’s getting married after you so people will see your dress first.
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Super June 2018
NinjaBride · on February 3, 2018 at 12:34 PM
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It’s ok. You will probably be the only one who notices that they are so alike. You will look beautiful and it doesn’t sound like you are family so chances are you will have different guests lists. It may seem like a big deal now but it’s not going to matter in the long run. She gets to pick whatever dress she wants and I’m sure you two will look very different anyway. My advice would be try not to let it bother you and it sounds like she hasn’t even bought it yet so she may change her mind or pick something else.
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Master July 2017
Going to the chapel · on February 3, 2018 at 12:35 PM
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To me, so many dresses look similar. She hasn't bought a new dress yet, so maybe she either won't buy a second dress or will find a dress that doesn't look so similar to yours.
Honestly, other than remembering vague details of a dress, I don't remember exactly what a dress looks like a few days after a wedding. So, I doubt guests at both of your weddings will say that her dress looks like yours.
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Devoted July 2018
Frida · on February 3, 2018 at 12:35 PM
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You're getting married before her which is a good thing. If a friend of mine did that and getting married before me, I would feel annoyed definitely.
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Super June 2018
NinjaBride · on February 3, 2018 at 12:35 PM
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Two people can look very different in the same dress and imitation is the highest form of flattery.
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Mim · on February 3, 2018 at 12:36 PM
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Are your bodies identical? Height? Faces? Hair? Posture? Personal sense of flair? No? Don't worry about it, at the end of the day you will each look like yourselves with the added ba-bam your wedding day will bring
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January 2018
Private User · on February 3, 2018 at 12:54 PM
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That's guys! Exactly what I needed to hear, well...read!!
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VIP May 2018
Ashley · on February 3, 2018 at 1:30 PM
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Do you have photos?? You’re getting married first so it shouldn’t matter. People will think she copied you if they go to both weddings.
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Champion December 2017
earias · on February 3, 2018 at 2:04 PM
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I would see it as a compliment. Like PP said, imitation is the highest form of flattery.
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Master July 2018
RZ_ToBe · on February 3, 2018 at 2:24 PM
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You'll probably be the only one that notices. So many dresses look similar. When I was marking dresses to try on at DB, I was honestly unsure if I marked the same dresses 2 or 3 times. Even when I tried them on, there were only a few differences (I guess I really liked a style and stuck to it). I understand not being thrilled, though. I think I would be upset if a friend did the same thing, though it's probably an honor that she likes your style so much. I would quit sharing too many details though, there's stories of people mimicking other people's weddings entirely (then changing the date to before yours so it looks like YOU copied).
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Master July 2018
Cuoghi · on February 3, 2018 at 2:24 PM
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No one will notice or care. Most wedding dresses look pretty similar.
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VIP January 2018
Bride2Be2018 · on February 3, 2018 at 2:51 PM
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I really don’t think this is something for you to stress about. As PPs have said, your wedding is first and honestly nobody is going to notice.
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Kelli · on February 3, 2018 at 4:15 PM
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You get to wear it first but also it's not going to look the same on 2 different people! There are so many dresses that look a like because of designers copying each other. Don't let it bother you! I'd feel even better about my choice if others wanted to wear the same dress, that means they love it!
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January 2018
Private User · on February 3, 2018 at 5:56 PM
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Thanks everyone. I feel a little better. For those who are curious...here are the dresses. Mine is on the left, I know obviously they aren't the same. But maybe if hers didn't also have the side cutouts, maybe it wouldn't bother me so much. But it's like, come on! She also won't be using the detachable skirt so they will look even more similar. Oh well. 🤷
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VIP July 2018
The Nuptials · on February 3, 2018 at 6:32 PM
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Thats nuts! She def went after your style, my goodness. Just be flattered, I know that hard. And I would stop sharing details with her. I accidentally did that and had a friend steal my 'theme' it was so odd. So I changed what I was doing and she's super curious to know whats going on with our wedding. Zipped lips!
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January 2018
Private User · on February 3, 2018 at 11:30 PM
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Yes! I'm def learning to not share anything else that is super important to me, you never freaking know I guess!
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Master May 2017
JerseyGirl · on February 3, 2018 at 11:36 PM
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Yup ditto this. There is so many other things to focus on for your wedding. This shouldn’t be one of those things.
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January 2019
MOB So Cal · on February 4, 2018 at 1:01 PM
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I understand your concerns, because those dresses are pretty distinctive with the shape, cutouts and lack of embellishment.... If you both had a-line ballgowns with re-embroidered lace on the bodice and a tulle skirt, I be more in camp "all wedding dresses look alike anyway." I'd just say keep all future details to yourself, so your veil, flowers, jewelry, etc. will be distinctively yours.
Since your wedding is first, if anyone is struck by the similarities, it won't be obvious until her wedding.... Beautiful dress thought!
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Super October 2018
Stacey · on February 4, 2018 at 2:02 PM
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Yeah...I mean that's a pretty specific style, I'd be annoyed too. That being said, there's not much you can do about it. Just don't show her your veil, accessories, etc, those will put your unique stamp on it.
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Dedicated April 2018
Dillydilly · on February 4, 2018 at 2:06 PM
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I agree - no one will notice. If this is your biggest problem with wedding planning, consider yourself lucky.
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