My fiancee and i can't agree on what we want do

It's your wedding too and he needs to compromise. Is this how he will treat all life decisions heading your way? His way or no way at all? Marriage is all about compromise, starting with the wedding.

I would recommend you both continue to communicate about your wishes and see if he will compromise.

I think there are some bigger issues here. What he gave is not a compromise. Also, have you two discussed how you will share finances in the future? There is no one way that works for every couple, but this idea that you pay for everything while he doesn't spend any of his money sets off a few warning bells to me (possibly unintentionally). Marriage is a partnership and deciding on what kind of wedding to have is just 1 part of it. Him saying "you do want you want but I won't lift a finger to help" doesn't sound like much of a partnership to me.

Not excellent advice that you need to push for the wedding that YOU want... A wedding is about two people and this should absolutely be a compromise between the two of you. I'd also recommend moving the date to a time period where you think you'd more easily afford something small. As someone once said, getting married is a right, a wedding is a privilege. You need to have the wedding you can afford that you're both willing to pay for/host. Personally, planning a wedding as a student is incredibly difficult and stressful--I'd personally consider 2022.

I will also say that I'm not thrilled with his way of communicating, but he's entitled to what he'd like his wedding to look like as well. I would also consider couples counseling tbh.

If you can't figure out what kind of wedding to have, this doesn't look well for when you two are married. Is there a reason why he doesn't want to hold wedding ceremony, has he actually explained why or have you asked him what's the issue? Start with that & then work towards a compromise because if you two are serious then this will eventually work itself out. However, I must say this is a huge red flag & no one should hear they'd need to pay for a wedding themselves from their soon to be spouse. I'm not a relationship expert, but you may need to rethink a lot of this, push back the wedding until you figure things out (like someone else said, counseling may be what you need). We're all on this site to plan our weddings, but never sacrifice your values & self for another person, don't ever settle. Good luck

Has he given you a reason as to why he will not compromise with you on this? He sounds pretty selfish. Marriage, and relationships in general, are about compromise and finding ways to make both partners happy. It sounds as though he is only concerned with his feelings. I would have a serious talk with him about this. If he is unwilling to compromise on having a small wedding, knowing it is what you want and what will make you happy, I would seriously reconsider marrying him. I can't imagine spending the rest of my life with someone that self-centered.

Good luck!