My fiance is not in favor of having my niece in the wedding but I really want her to be! Stick to my guns?

Maybe if you just really want her in it and to respect fiance's wishes I would maybe have her by the guest book and gift table and welcome everyone. That's what we are doing. Just a thought!

A 2-yr old is iffy to walk down the aisle on their own. If there is somebody that he knows that will be able to walk with him, go with that.

I thought about something like that also. Maybe handing out programs or something??? I dunno. He is being really pushy about it. I know he really thinks I am pressured by my mom and sister and at first I was, but everytime we talk about the wedding I see in my nieces face how left out she feels. I am really close to her and its important to me to have her be part of it. I'll discuss alternatives with the hubs. Thanks for the idea.

With a six year old just make sure it's not something she has to do for a long time and that if she gets over whelmed she can turn it over to some one or it's ok to be left UN attendad

My daugter was 2 when she was in my cousins wedding. At the rehearsal she keep picking up the other flowergirls flowers and putting them in her basket, we had to go get her and walk her up. So at the wedding we had someone walk with her and it went much better. So it may be a good idea to have her walk him.

A 2 year old WILL NEED an escort. You AND your FH will regret it if you don't include her.

Explain to your FH how important it is to you...and tell him how you feel. I know that when I explain myself my fiance better understands. Good Luck!

Someone suggested to place her by the gift table and welcome people -- i dont really think thats the place to put your 6 yr old niece

everyone knows a 6 yr old is not going to stand there long enough to welcome people....its a mature task for that age.....

just talk to him again -- i would be so worried about the 2 yr old making it down the aisle....only alternative would be to send him down the aisle at the same time as the flowergirls.....hope this works out for you! Not to pry but why is your other nephew no longer in the party?!? if you leave out this niece she wouldnt be the only one as you said the 4 yr old nephew got pulled.

Communicate, for sure--find out what his objections are and see if you two can come to an agreement.

I say stand your ground and make her a flower girl for sure. He should take one for the team. I'm sure he doesn't want to see her upset and feeling left out the day of your wedding. What's one more flower girl, right?

Thanks Ladies! I am going to have a long talk and help him understand...

FutureMrsMC...well, (sighs) its a long story but his family has just not been supportive. His sisters in a nice word HATE me (lol) so they have already objected to coming. His sister's hubby was standing in the wedding but backed out after FH's own sister sent him a message saying that her hubby was not standing in wedding and that her family would not be coming (Her, hubby& daughters)...FH brother backed out because I did not ask his wife to be a BM, (also taking his son out-leaving my nephew to walk alone)...and and FH's BFF/ Best man also backed out because his ex-girlfriend is one of my BMs. I love FH but his family definitely has no sense of the word loyalty. We've finally learned to ignore the drama and negativity and be happy for all of the people who are excited to share our big day with us!! I think FH is just feeling a little bitter so it is hard for me to explain wanting my niece in and that I cannot help that his family does not want to participate, but that mine is still very excited. Bitter might be a strong word, more so he is hurt so its a really sensitive subject to discuss all together. Ugh!

Oh boy - yes thats drama you dont need for sure.....so all the more reason to have your special nieces in your wedding.....surround yourself with the people who love and support you!

I don't think "there are enough girls in the wedding" is a good enough reason not to have your niece in it!

I'm with FutureMrsMC -- I wouldn't put a six year old in a greeter's position. Maybe she could hand out programs -- something that would keep an antsy six year old moving as opposed to being stationed behind a table. Or, just have her walk with your nephew (at 2 years old, odds are not in your favor that the little guy will be able to pull this off without help). Having your niece escort him would really consume about two minutes of the wedding. It's not a big deal, and nobody is going to say, "Did you notice how many more girls than boys there are?". Actually, the guests will just ooh and aah at all the kids (as long as they actually perform without freaking out and making everyone in the room nervous, lol).