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My fiance has maybe 10 people to invite to our wedding. I'd have to cut to get to 50. Should i be worried?

Paige, on January 19, 2020 at 10:47 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8

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I have a huge family and we are all very close. I'm also a fairly social person and have at least 10 friends close enough that I can't imagine leaving them off the guest list. My fiance on the other hand has a small family and keeps only a couple of close friends. We want to keep the guest list around 50-60, but right now it's looking like 80% of the guests will be mine.

He says he doesn't mind, but I don't want it to feel like a party for me and my friends. And I worry about what his mom and dad will think.
Am I overthinking this? Should I try to trim my list or just party on with my friends and family and include his as much as possible? I don't know if it matters, but my parents are paying for the whole wedding.

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Latest activity by Sherry, on January 21, 2020 at 12:58 PM

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Caytlyn · on January 19, 2020 at 10:58 PM
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You should re-evaluate the way you think of your guest list. Every person is there for both of you, not just one of you. They’re there to celebrate you coming together as one. Think of them as “our” guests and not “his” guests or “my” guests.
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Mrs. S · on January 20, 2020 at 12:31 AM
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Almost our entire guest list was my side. It wasn’t a big deal.
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Futuremrsm · on January 20, 2020 at 8:10 AM
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My wedding will be about 80% of my FH family and I dont mind because everyone is there to celebrate the both of us
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Kristen · on January 20, 2020 at 8:16 AM
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Your overrunning it. Men are pretty transparent lol. He says he doesn't mind he doesn't. That's my situation with my fh. At least he's having friends and family come so it's not like you're telling him that he can't invite no one. I think your good amd the day will be fun.
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Andrea · on January 20, 2020 at 9:22 AM
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I agree with Kristen.
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Veronica · on January 20, 2020 at 10:35 AM
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If you are okay with the guest list being larger, you can always ask him if there is anyone his parents would very much like to be there who aren't on his list (assuming he doesn't mind his parents adding guests). If not, I wouldn't stress about it. There are very few situations where the couple has exactly the same number of family and close friends.
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Florida Marlins · on January 20, 2020 at 12:55 PM
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Mine too - 80% of our guest list was my family. Don't stress about it.
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Sherry · on January 21, 2020 at 12:58 PM
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I also have a huge family and my husband does not. I ended up cutting my guest count and not inviting my co-workers or friends so that he could invite his co-workers, friends and family so that he could also feel that he had people their for him just as much as I did. My husband also said he didn't mind but I did and could tell he did, he just didn't want to say anything. It wasn't MY wedding, it was OUR wedding.
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