My fiancé has lots of friends but I don't .

My Fiance and I are the exact opposite, I have the big family and all the friends while he has a small family and not many friends. He actually doesn't have any. I would join groups around your community, volunteer, get involved!

Don't worry about making friends. I'm an introvert with few but close friends. My husband is an extravert with tons of friends and acquaintances. Enjoy your family.

I actually read this article recently about how as an adult you have less friends simply because you don't have the amount of time to spend with people that you did in your younger years to cement new friendships, so don't feel bad. You are actually probably pretty normal. :-) If you want to meet more people find some kind of activity to join - dance class, cooking class, bowling team, knitting club, or anything! You will meet new people.

I know how you feel. Well neither FH or I have a lot of friends, after having a baby relationships definitely changed. We are inviting 100 guests, out of those 100, 5 are friends (mine).

I'm the exact same. I invited literally five friends, likely only three will attend. FH is inviting about 15 friends, but he has almost zero family. It is very difficult making new friends as you get older. Interested to see what advice others have to offer.

I have a large family and my fiance doesn't, but we both have few friends. Adulting takes up too much time and it's too hard to maintain true friendships with people. We are having a small wedding to not draw attention to the difference in our family size and the only friends we really have are in our wedding party. I see no reason to invite the people that have only been our acquaintances.

I think it's pretty common as you get older to not keep in touch with as many people. People's lives change and things get busy. I don't think it's anything to be concerned about.

I see your conflict not wanting to have his side be huge and yours be small. Maybe talk to him about it and express your feelings. That's what FH did with me. He explained how he felt about it and we mutually agreed on a number and some "rules" for who to invite. It helps us keep on track and is more fair for both of us.

I have a large family and my fiance doesn't, but we both have few friends. Adulting takes up too much time and it's too hard to maintain true friendships with people. We are having a small wedding to not draw attention to the difference in our family size and the only friends we really have are in our wedding party. I see no reason to invite the people that have only been our acquaintances.

I think it's pretty common as you get older to not keep in touch with as many people. People's lives change and things get busy. I don't think it's anything to be concerned about.

I see your conflict not wanting to have his side be huge and yours be small. Maybe talk to him about it and express your feelings. That's what FH did with me. He explained how he felt about it and we mutually agreed on a number and some "rules" for who to invite. It helps us keep on track and is more fair for both of us.

The wedding is a celebration of the two of you becoming one. A lot of people only invite their family. Remember that you and your FH will be spending the whole night together so you wouldn't have much time for friends anyways besides saying hello.

Thanks to everyone who respond. Me and FH have talked about it and we have cut the number down but I still hard to realize now that I'm planning my wedding, I don't really have friends.

I don't have a lot of friends and he has two total, one of whom can't come. We both have invited some people we work with we'd each like to get to know better, and hopefully will in the next 6 months. At least our introversion is saving us money, but I definitely always feel like "I don't have friends." I do, I just don't have "a group" anymore, and I have close friends who aren't local.

I come from a big family there are 5 of us because my mom remarried when I was younger and my FH has a small family but has tons of friends. I use to have a lot of friends but after me and my FH started dating a lot of them quit talking to me because I wouldn't go out anymore instead I chose to stay at home when he was home to see him I had one of my so called friends actually tell her husband and some other friends we were getting married just to make her jealous. I have maybe 3 close friends and that's it

We have both large families and he has many friends but I have only a few, he knew it bothered me that I felt like I was lonely so he's only inviting his closest friends so keep it at a low number. I know how it feels because I would much rather stay home then go out and try to make friends!

All the friends I'm inviting are from high school (and earlier). FH's friends are the same he had in high school, too. The big difference is I now live far away from all of them but one (who unknowingly followed me to my new state and city years ago), and FH is still in his hometown.

I have the big family and he has a smaller one. But that's totally ok! I wouldn't suggest finding new friends before the wedding just to invite them and up your guest count. The people at your wedding should really support and witness the marriage of you two. But if you do make a few friends and have the budget for more, then totally invite them. We just can't add more beyond our guest list

I'm the same way. I'm an introvert with a few close friends and a medium sized family. FH doesn't have much family in the US but he is an extrovert and has a ton of friends. We had the dilemma of him having 5 groomsmen and me only having 3 bridesmaids..so he had to leave 2 friends out which I felt bad about but we weren't sure what else to do.

I'm having a destination wedding and most of the people attending so far are my fiance's family and friends. You want quality not quantity.

I only have like four close friends attending my wedding. FH has around the same amount. I'm just too busy going to college and working. I don't have much time to spend with my current friends. We both have big families. I'm actually glad it's this way since I won't let any friends out or feeling bad since they weren't invited.

Unless you've stayed in touch with friends you've made along the way from high school/college, it's difficult for adults to make friends unless you're active in church or your community or you hang out with your co-workers (I'm always a little surprised at people who have a flat "no co-worker rule" to their 300-person wedding. Who's coming? LOL). I don't think you need to worry about having enough people there. You have 20 people who love you and that's a hell of a lot more than a lot of people in this world. But after the wedding, if you want to make more friends, get involved in your community. There's always something to do that caters to every interest.

FH is really social...I HAVE to be for work, so I tend to be rather introverted outside of work. Join clubs....there are a ton of "groups" in yahoo and Facebook that are interest specific. I would search those as a starting point.

I can relate. FH has stayed in touch with his childhood friends, middle school, high school, AND college friends. So, he has his different groups and they still see each other pretty regularly, which is crazy to me. I only have a few high school friends I still talk to. Most of my closest friends are the ones I met in college, and even so, I didn't stay in touch with a lot of them. So his side of the guest list is double mine. Also, all his friends are either in long term relationships, engaged, or married (so definitely getting +1s)... While mine are all single. And on top of that, he has a bigger family that he is really close to and I do not.