My fiancé doesn’t seem interested in anything sexy?

I think the important thing to remember here is that not everyone thinks the same things are sexy. I spent hundreds, maybe thousands of dollars on lingerie when I was with my ex-husband because he really liked it. My current husband doesn’t care what my underwear looks like and views lingerie as a completely unnecessary thing/expense. Sit down and have a conversation with your FH about your feelings but make sure you listen to him also.

Sometimes I think lingerie is more for US to feel sexy. My hubby isn’t really interested in it either, never has been. He thinks a woman in a towel is hot. Or when I wear sexy high heels & a short skirt.

Don’t be upset your man isn’t interested in it but maybe chat about WHAT he finds sexy. If you’re looking to spice things up maybe a chat will help.

I've been SPECIFICALLY told by a couple of former boyfriends to not waste money on lingerie because it's just coming off. I agree with the other in that they like that we have a reason to feel sexy. I just read something about wedding anxiety affecting sex drive leading up to the wedding. They say it's normal due to stress. Hes probably overwhelmed.

My husband has the same philosophy about wrapping paper and lingerie, “Why waste time making it look fancy when it’s only meant to come off?”
He is obviously very bad at wrapping gifts 😂

View Quoted Comment Hahaha that’s too funny 😂

DH recently acknowledged to me that he likes the *idea* of lingerie... but in practice it's just coming off, and often in the way.

He usually finds it sexiest when I'm wearing our sports teams' jerseys and cheering them on...

Everyone finds different things sexy. Lingerie is just culturally coded as "sexiest".

In my experience, men ALWAYS say they don’t care if you’re making them pick out an ensemble with you. Most men hate shopping, no matter what it’s for.
Rebook that Boudoir Shoot, but don’t tell him. Make it a surprise! Print out some small wallet sized ones and give them as a gift when you two are alone after the wedding or before the ceremony, put them in an envelope that says “For your eyes only” and have someone deliver it to him.
Pick out the lingerie sets and ensembles that make YOU feel good. Steal one of his favorite shirts and use that for a few photos. I’m sure he will love the photos once they’re done. Just don’t tell him when you’re buying the lingerie! You could even throw an outfit on, set the mood with some candles and surprise him with a wild evening before the wedding to reignite that spark 😉
Vicky’s can get pricey quickly. If you’re looking for cute lingerie, I would recommend Yandy. I promise he won’t know the difference between a $50 thong and a $5 thong because, like a few other comments have said, it’s all coming off anyway 💁🏼‍♀️🙈

I would be much more concerned if he isn’t sexually attracted to you in general. The other posters are right that everyone likes different things, and many guys don’t care about lingerie. However if he is opposed to anything sexual or this is a change in his behavior, that would be something you should look into more. After dating for so many years, I’m surprised that you’re just now crossing this bridge. It could also just be wedding and life stress getting to him (or you) which is making this awkward.

My fh is the same! He could care less if I’m wearing sexy lingerie or anything really. We been together for almost 10 years and not once has he cared. I still by the stuff for my self to feel sexy! 😁

I would agree with other people that him finding you sexy in general is more important than if he enjoys lingerie. Believe me, I understand that frustration. My FH also thinks it’s nice but pointless because it’s gonna come off. I buy it and wear it for me, to feel sexier and more confident, which is what he actually enjoys more so than a random piece of clothing. Book that boudoir session! I am doing one as a present to him, but I know it’s also going to help my own confidence. I don’t wanna generalize, but in my experience a lot of guys just aren’t as interested in that sort of stuff as the media makes us think they are. Movies and shows and stuff lead us to think it’s the end all be all of sexiness - my fiancé prefers me wearing nothing lol or something of his as truly sexy. Hope that helps! Chin up!