My fh will not talk about planning.

So sorry you are going thru this but I would see this as a red flag and stop planning. now maybe a good time to discuss if y'all are on the same timeline for your forevers.

I agree that's a red flag. It's time to step back and evaluate your relationship with your FH. Y'all need to be on the same page.

You need to get the the route of the problems. Why does he not want to talk about it? Does he just want you to take care of everything? Is her worried about cost? Is their family drama he wants to avoid?

For example, my FH didn't want to talk about things at one point because he felt like it was too far away to make some of those decisions. I sat down and showed him the checklist I had with everything that needed to get done and helped him to understand why I was trying to get things done early. Once he understood, he got onboard.

Would you consider premarital counseling or couples therapy? It’s important for you to know if he’s getting upset because he’s not ready or if he just hates planning. Have you asked why he’s so resistant to planning?

I think that's sometimes in relationships. One person is more exciting about the wedding ceremony than the other. That is the case with my future husband and I. He does not care much about wedding talk and most things that I ask his opinion on he just says it's whatever you want. I know you want his input for support, but honestly at this point I would just make all the plans and Arrangement yourself and maybe have your maid of honor or bridal party members give you some opinions or insight for certain things. Doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Obviously, it's just that maybe he's not one for big weddings, which there are good amount of men that are not.

I'm sorry you're going through this. I had somewhat of a similar issue with my FH. It wasn't that my FH got mad or changed the subject, I was just bringing things up to him that he really didn't care about. I had to sit down with him b/c it really started to upset me and made me feel like he didn't want to get married. When I told him that, he told me it wasn't b/c he didn't care or didn't want to get married, he said that he doesn't care about the little details like if our napkins are monogrammed, what the ToGo boxes look like, and other small things like that. He has helped with the big stuff with venue, food, his outfit and other important things.

I'd say sit down with your FH and talk to him. Tell him why you're upset. I do agree with the PP. I do think you should take it as a red flag that he's changing the subject or getting mad when you bring up the wedding. Especially since your wedding is coming up so soon. In my personal opinion, it's not a good sign that he is getting mad when you bring it up. I would ask him if he just doesn't care about the details (b/c many men don't), or if there is something else going on. I would personally also flat out ask him if he even wants to get married b/c he isn't acting like it; that's just me though, lol.

That's common. Some grooms just don't really care to be a part of planning. But you need him to know this is something you're in on together and that level of communication speaks widely for your relationship beyond the wedding

When we got overwhelmed with wedding planning, we started honeymoon planning.
It also seemed like for a while, the only thing I could talk about was the wedding because it consumed a portion of my life last summer when. we first started making plans.
I'd check to make sure that he still wants to do this. I'm sure he does, but maybe if he realizes he's making you doubt that he wants to, he'll step up.Also, not sure what you have to talk about, but I just started sending him 2 options and saying which do you like better. Or a do you like this?

Maybe ask him what he would like to plan? FH and I split up the big duties at first, catering, venue, dj, etc with each of us sharing what we were planning to do. If he doesn't want to talk about all the details ask him what he CAN do to take iff your plate. Otherwise, I would have a serious convo with him about marriage.

It is completely unfair for all of the wedding planning to fall on you. You need to sit down with your FH and have a heart-to-heart. Let him know that planning is a lot of work and you both need and want his help. Then come up with a plan where you can discuss the wedding and work on things together in a way that minimizes stress as much as possible. It might be setting aside specific time to have those discussions or placing a limit on how often the wedding comes up on a regular basis (like "I don't want to talk about the wedding every night at dinner, but we could have it be something we chat about a couple times a week"). Also you can ask him why he's avoiding it. Is he bad at planning or does he feel stressed about money? Is he feeling pressure from family or friends? Are you being controlling and not valuing his opinion when he gives it? Does he have a bad past experience with wedding or event planning? Figuring out the root cause of why he refuses to talk about it with you might help you come up with a plan that eases some of the stress but still allows you to have productive, meaningful conversations.

If he doesn't want to help with planning because it stresses him out and he feels overwhelmed, then you need to find a way to involve one another in a way where he can manage his anxiety. If he doesn't want to talk about the wedding because he feels it should all be you and he doesn't need to be involved, then that is a different problem and would be a major red flag for me. Regardless it cannot fall on on you. He needs to support you and be there for you and it's unfair for you to carry the entire burden of anything that might be stressful or unpleasant in your lives together. He needs to be willing to have a conversation with you about it without shutting down or getting angry or upset.

I would go to counseling and talk about why he is so against discussing his own wedding.