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My fh has too many groomsmen

Katie, on February 6, 2018 at 1:00 AM Posted in Planning 0 17

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I have found myself in a backwards situation. Usually it’s the bride who has too many BM’s and the groom is struggling to find guys to ask to be his GM. But in my case I only have four close friends that I have asked to be BM but my FH has a list of eight guys (plus my brother) he wants to ask.
should I make him narrow it down?
I feel bad because i want him to be able to have everyone he wants in our wedding but at the same time I’m worried about pictures and that is a lot of men to wrangle.... help!

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Latest activity by Kathryn, on December 5, 2020 at 4:01 PM

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Cassie · on February 6, 2018 at 1:17 AM
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I mean that is a lot of groomsmen but for real, don’t worry about pictures. Uneven sides don’t matter and shouldn’t be a concern when it comes to picking ur bridal party. If he wants 8 and can budget for 8 gifts for them, I’d say for him to go for it.
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Ashley · on February 6, 2018 at 1:30 AM
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It costs SO much to have a big party. I’d ask him to really think about the people he’s including.
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J · on February 6, 2018 at 1:50 AM
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EIght is a lot, I think it’s fair to question him and make sure he really feels like he needs all of them. Even though being even doesn’t matter, your brother can stand in your side to make it more even. I’ve been to some weddings with bridesmen or groomswomen.
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Beginner August 2018
Jessica · on February 6, 2018 at 2:14 AM
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If the only concern is the pictures, There are ways that lopsided bridal parties can work on pictures. Look up ideas on Pinterest! There are some really cute ones.
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Sherika · on February 6, 2018 at 7:48 AM
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It’s not a big deal, I’ve coordinated weddings with more bridesmaids or groomsmen. Everyone one can walk individually and leave individually. As for pictures, you and husband go in the middle and the men are four and four on the side. Have two bridesmaids stand in the middle of two groomsmen on each side for the full BD pictures
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LeeAnne · on February 6, 2018 at 8:25 AM
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My fh haa 8 groomsmen i only have 7 bridesmaids im not concerend about pictures & im not going to ask someone else just to even it out. Im also not going to ask him to cut it down. If you are truely concerend another option could be asking 2 of those guys to be ushers????
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NVV2B · on February 6, 2018 at 9:22 AM
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Can he have some of the guys be ushers instead? 8 is a lot when you only have 4. I know both sides don't have to be even... but it looks better that way. He can also invite all of them to go to the bachelor party and all of that.
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Mrs. Fall Bride · on February 6, 2018 at 9:50 AM
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No, sides don't have to be even. If he wants 8, let him have 8. He just has to remember it's more money on gifts and boutonnieres, but if that's what he wants, that's what he should have. You can each BM walk down the aisle with 2 GMs, and for pictures, your photographer will arrange people accordingly.
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RZ_ToBe · on February 6, 2018 at 10:09 AM
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Yes, 8 is a lot. Usually people get roped into a big party like that because they feel obligated to ask family members or in-law siblings. If he can afford a party that big (think gifts, Bach party, attire assistance, ect), then let him have it. Otherwise, he needs to narrow it down. If he's already asked all 8, that can make things tricky, but he may be able to slide them over to being ushers or something like that.
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Beginner August 2019
Katie · on February 6, 2018 at 10:45 AM
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Yes, that is what I have told him. Just because they aren’t in the wedding party doesn’t mean he can’t invite them to the bachelor party. We have thought about the idea of ushers too... Thank you!!
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Beginner August 2019
Katie · on February 6, 2018 at 10:49 AM
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No he hasn’t asked any of them yet, our wedding is still a year and a half away. But the usher idea is a good one!
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Beginner August 2019
Katie · on February 6, 2018 at 10:53 AM
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I didn’t think of that arrangement!!! That’s a really good idea. I know a good photographer will know those things we just haven’t picked one yet.
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Bobbi · on February 6, 2018 at 10:58 AM
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My FH has 7 and that actually surprised me. I didn't want that big of a wedding party but I accommodated. I included his sisters, almost all of my sisters and my oldest daughter is my Maid of Honor and my best friend is my Matron of Honor. He wanted to downsize after I had talked to everyone on my side so I told him "NOPE you're stuck with it buddy" lol. I do have worries that one of his sister will back out but whatever. Your pictures will turn out beautiful no matter what. Good Luck.
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Beginner August 2019
Katie · on February 6, 2018 at 11:03 AM
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Yah he’s an only child so I can’t include any of his sisters or else I totally would. And a big wedding party doesn’t scare me because I want to be able to include all of our friends and family in our wedding but I don’t like the idea of it being so lopsided.
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Dedicated September 2019
Disneydarlin2019 · on February 6, 2018 at 11:24 AM
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What if you did 2 groomsmen per bridesmaid
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Beginner August 2019
Katie · on February 6, 2018 at 11:41 AM
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I don’t really like the way that looks:/ and I don’t mind if they all walk down the aisle seperatly. It’s when we are all standing up at the front that I’m mostly worried about.
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Just Said Yes August 2022
Kathryn · on December 5, 2020 at 4:01 PM
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Hi Katie! I don't know if you'll see this but I'm in the same boat. I thought we would have everyone sit that isn't my MOH and his BM to help even it out. What did you end up doing?
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