My Family Dislikes My Fiance

Wait. So your family didn’t meet your fiancé until after he proposed to you? That’s outrageous. If they were the ones who refused to meet, it’s pretty bold of them to now be upset that he didn’t speak to them before proposing. I’d just ask them why they feel so strongly about the situation given the lack of previous interest. Be honest and open about how it makes you feel and come from a place of understanding and hopefully it’ll get resolved. But you really can’t worry about how other people react. They need to sort their feelings out themselves. It’s not your job to make everyone else happy.

I'm so sorry your family is treating you this way. I have been through something similar. The way they are treating you is NOT you or your fiance's fault. If your family has decided not to accept him, that's their decision and their responsibility. You just keep living your life and enjoying your relationship. As for your sister saying "maybe"- honestly how well she knows the groom should have no bearing (in. my opinion) on her being in your wedding party. She's your sister, and for that reason alone she should want to support you. I'd start asking other friends or close relatives that are supportive.

Girl, you need to set some strong boundaries.
While I definitely understand why you're bothered (who wouldn't in this situation?), you shouldn't let them be that controlling!
I mean: they're upset because you weren't with them on Christmas? Seriously??!Does it means that in the future you won't be allowed to spend a Christmas, a new year's eve, athanksgiving with your fiancé's family nor just the 2 of you?What's next? Will they want to pick the future kids names and the god parents?On the other hand, you man did everything he could to meet with them and is super mature and patient, he trully loves you since he doesn't act like a ***** unlike your mom and sisters ... At least your dad made an effort, maybe a positive sign for your mom and sis?

A sking for your parents' permission (or for their blessing after proposing), it should be up to him, or up to the 2 of you but no family member is entitled to ask this... My fiancé didn't want to ask for permission, nor blessing but asked me if it was important to me. I told him I didn't want because while he would have asked if I wanted him to do it, I didn't want him to do it reluctantly. Asking this should be heartflet and should come from the guy, not from the family.

And last but not least: I'm.not sure why he would ask them if all of them acted and still act this way. No one would ask!

My parents aren't close to my husband, either. They've seen him probably less than 50 times in the 7 years that we have been together -- he started getting sick a year or so after we got together, and just didn't want to be around people, then was hospitalized for quite some time . . . then CoVID hit, and he couldn't be around other people. He asked my parents' permission LITERALLY five hours before he was rushed into emergency surgery with a 20 percent survival rate a little more than 2 years ago (May 2019), and then after he was out of the hospital, he basically stopped communicating with anyone outside of our household, including his own family. My parents get touchy about it, but at the end of the day, they aren't the one coming home to him, nor are they the ones whose health is at risk.

Your marriage to your FH is between YOU and him, not your parents and him. Yes, he is joining the family. Yes, you're their little girl. It is YOUR marriage, though, not theirs.