My Daughter & His Daughters Roles

I would just make sure your fiancé is okay with this arrangement, first. If he is, go for it. The 2 year old won’t care about one role versus the other.

Given the ages, it makes sense. I have never seen a 2 year old bridesmaid


A 7 year old is old enough to stand still by your side

I think the age gap is large enough to put them in different roles. I think it would be a different story if they were both 7 years old, but since one is a toddler (who probably barely speaks in complete sentences), it would make sense that she’s a flower girl and your older daughter get a more “grown up” role. Not to say flower girls can’t be older, but usually older kids don’t want to be lumped into the same “group” as a “baby”. It’s like if you had a 8 year old flower girl... I doubt a 13 year old would want to be in the same role, but instead would prefer to be a junior bridesmaid.

I think you are more than ok to have them as you stated. Two year olds don't stand still for a long period of time. I wouldn't worry about what others say as long as you and your FH are on the same page. A seven year old and two year old don't really have a "role" they are there bc they are special people in your lives and you want them apart of this special day.

Talk with your FH & make sure he’s on the same page. I’ve never seen a 2 yr old bridesmaid. The 2 yr old isn’t gonna care as long as she’s included. I scored a beautiful flower girl dress that I’m sure she would love.

I think with the age difference it's fine to have them in different roles. The only reason I might consider having the 7 year old be flower girl instead of a bridesmaid would be to help with the 2 year old as she walks up the aisle. Maybe you could name the 7 year old a Junior Bridesmaid, and she could walk with the little one?

If it's not an issue, I think making her a full bridesmaid is fine. Just so you and FH are good with, everyone else should be!

For her to be bridesmaid is fine. However, very often a very young bridesmaid dresses in a similar dress and color, or coordinating one, but not the same dress. This is because so many BM dresses now are highly sexualized. Bare sections, plunging necklines, slits, and such. Perhaps when the subject comes up you can make it clear that she will coordinate with the bridesmaids in an age appropriate style. I was first a bridesmaid at a young enough age to think addressing all the envelopes with caligraphy was fun! Very proud to be a BM not flower girl, and I would have been crushed if dressed like a preschooler fg, instead of a high necked, lace sleeved version of the BM dress.

View Quoted Comment My bridesmaids will be in same color but whatever dress style they choose, my daughter has picked out a lovely dress that is conservative, very much so her style. Everyone says she gets it from me. I’m not too worried about the dresses.

View Quoted Comment The 2 year old will be walking down with a little boy we know as well, she won’t be walking alone. I do see your point though.

Who is going to be watching the 2 year old during the ceremony and really the whole day? The 2 year old should be the flower girl. A a 7 year old is at best a Jr Bridesmaid (heck my flower girl is 8!). But the real issue is making sure there is a responsible adult with the 2 year old all day. No one is going to expect a 2 year old to have any meaningful roll in the wedding. And make sure to not schedule the ceremony around nap time!

Maybe you could do a special blue so your daughter stands out and his daughter she could be in a white dress with a blue sash