My date or my venue?

I suppose it boils down to which is more important to you? If the date doesn't have a major significance to you, but the venue is the one you've been dreaming about, I'd choose the venue. However, if the date is important to you and your FS, go with the date and choose a different venue.

I’d look for another venue, but we’re very attached to our date for sentimental reasons. The venue was nice and in our budget, but we could find another one. But plenty of couples just pick a random day, so in that case I would definitely trade the date for the venue.

Depending how much you like your venue..its all up to you!!! If you sent out STD or invites best to keep your date change location update on invitation.

View Quoted Comment Yea our date will be our relationship anniversary

Our venue was more important to us, so we compromised on our date. It’s us that makes the date important anyway. Our actual anniversary is in September, but we didn’t want to get married in that month because it starts to get cold already in Chicago. So as long as our venue had a summer date, we were fine with it. It really depends on your preference. I personally like having 2 anniversaries, more reasons to celebrate

I would agree with all the comments; whatever is more important to you. It's tough either way, but if you had your heart set on getting married on your anniversary, don't change it! But if you were in love with your venue, definitely change the date. Keep in mind that all your photographed and video-ed memories will be in whatever setting you end up with, so venue is definitely important. But like I said, if you have your heart set on your date, then no one will blame you for changing the venue.

The date wasn’t as important to me as the venue was

I'd look for a new venue.

View Quoted Comment Since that’s the case, I’d keep looking for other venues. What’s the harm in looking? If you change your mind after touring a few other venues in your price range, you can always change your date.

For us, our dream venue was more important. Our original date did get booked while negotiating so we moved it up a week. No regrets!

I’d switch my date over my venue, but I also wasn’t too attached to our date before booking just in case it’s was already booked. Having my dream venue was ultimately what meant more to me but if your date is really special to you I’d consider looking at other venues!

We were the same had a 3 year engagement so we could have our wedding on a Saturday on the date that we first met. So we looked until we found a venue that was open on our date that checked all the boxes we needed. Found a perfect place and couldn't imagine having our wedding anywhere else. .so happy we didn't change the date.

You don't really have a wedding date until your venue is booked. Personally, I don't think it's ever worth placing more emphasis on a certain date (so many people end up having Thursday weddings because of this, which is not inherently bad, but they get mad when many people can't attend). I'm happy with the idea that our wedding day would just be added to our list of important dates--another day/reason to celebrate.

I was torn on this too but ultimately we were forced to change our date because every venue we could find was already booked. I would definitely search other venues, I understand that dates can be a bit sentimental so I’d keep that if you can.

We booked ceremony venue, reception venue, as photographer all at once because we wanted to line up all 3 make make sure our #1 preferences for all three of those were available on the same day. It was tricky but worth it. We’re not picky about exact date, just have preference for certain months so focus was whichever date had all 3 open for booking.

It depends on what is more important to you. Once I'm married, I'll probably remember our engagement and meeting date but those pale in importance to the wedding date. For me, we found the venue we wanted, asked what dates they had left in the two months we were open to, and went from there. I'd sacrifice the date in a heartbeat for my venue.

Since it is an important date for you I would keep looking for Venues. How important is your venue?

I did.. at first.

We wanted 10.10.20 but it was not available at the venue we wanted so we settled for 10.3.20.

A month later the venue sent out an email that they were shutting down (we still haven't received our deposit back yet). So we found another venue that just so happened to have 10.10 available.

Our venue was more important to us than the date, so when they called us almost 6 months after we booked to let us know that they double booked us, we moved the date.

We changed our date for our venue. And now that we've booked everything and sent out STDs our date is open at our venue wedding planning is FUN.