My parents are divorced, but I grew up with my mom. She Basically raised me on her own. I know my dad loves me, but he has had promises fall threw with me and my sister( example: promising us that we will go to Belize which is where our family is from, but instead travels with his girlfriend of one year) a lot and put a lot of financial and emotional stress all on my mom to take care of us from when we were little till now really. He was on child support and was court mandated to pay for our health insurance, but he never offered to help my mom with anything else. I really preferred that they both walk me down because my mom has put in so much hard work, time and money into my life. I also wanted to split the daughter dance between my dad and my mom, for that same reason. I talked about this with my sister and FH and they both think its a great idea to honor my mom with walking me down and the dance. When I told my dad about this he he asked about where his girlfriend would be sitting and I told him we haven't sent out invites yet or RSVP's to figure all that out yet. Then he told me that he wants her to be comfortable where shes sitting and I agree with that too, but I also have think about where I would like my dad to sit too ugh. Then he was saying how excited his girlfriend was that her and the daughter are going to have a good time. I told him well there are no children allowed at the wedding(which I told him this before) and he was like " oh, like if he had no clue." BUT maybe her forgot?. He then said "I don't know what weddings have both the mom and dad walk the bride down." I was really taken back by it and I really wanted to say things out of anger but I held back and told him well thats how FH and I would like to do it. PLUS FH is walking down his parents. When I told my FH what my dad said he was really annoyed by it. When I told my sister about it she was like "he isn't even paying or offered to pay for anything, so why does he think he can walk you down himself especially when he hasn't tried to become closer to us".
These gathering thoughts all came up today, because I was trying to figure out a day of schedule and I was thinking who would/should be where at what time etc. My mom has a boyfriend of 7 years who lives with us and is closer with us. My sister and I just recently met his girlfriend. I am sure I will figure out how exactly the day will go trying to make sure the moms boyfriend and dads girlfriend don't feel awkward. In my head is "how are they getting there", "who will be in the photos with us", "who is sitting where" blaahh its a lot. And I wanted to just vent about it.
Sorry this is long, but thank you for reading.
