Post content has been hidden

To unblock this content, please click here

Savvy August 2019

My dad is stressing me out 😩

Tina , on June 2, 2019 at 12:41 PM Posted in Planning 0 4

Saved

Flag
Hide content

Hello ladies!

I need to vent a bit.. this is the only place I can since everyone can understand why.

Me and my mother haven’t had the best relationship throughout my entire life and when I told her I was having a wedding and stuff.. she started to put her two cents in and telling me what she will allow and what she won’t allow. So Me and her communication stopped because she’s very toxic. I don’t want negativity during that day. Soo now I feel so much at ease.. my dad now is the problem. I’ve told him before I sent out the invites there are “ no children under 16 “ coming to the wedding besides our 2 girls.. which would be included in the wedding. He’s like ok. Sooo then I sent out the invitations last week. And he calls me and says why aren’t there children allowed at the wedding? and I said there’s no children allowed because it’s a lot of money per person etc etc. he’s telling me it’s not fair my girls are going and other children are not allowed. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I’m like they are our children and they are in the wedding. So he begins to tell me.. nobody isn’t gonna go because they don’t have anyone to watch their children. I said they have plenty of time to figure out who can watch the kids. (Our wedding is in August). So he brushes it off. Yesterday he calls me and tells me.. if his nephew (13) can come? I told him I wrote it nice and sweet on the invite for no children to come. ( I wrote “sweet dreams to children under 16”). Hes still not getting as to why we can’t have children there. If I say it’s ok for him to come.. a whole poopy storm is gonna come with everyone that does have children. I’m soooo stressed out I don’t know what to do anymore.. I don’t even want this wedding anymore. 😣

Flag
Hide content

4 Comments

Latest activity by Stephanie, on June 2, 2019 at 9:12 PM

Dedicated September 2020
Megan · on June 2, 2019 at 1:16 PM
Flag

Hide content
I feel this all too well, my guest list has gotten massive a small intimate wedding turned into 90 people most of which are children, I have no children but they are super fertile apparently haha.
I know it's hard on people to try and get their children to be watched but I feel like with enough notice they should be able to figure it out. At least 40 of my guests will be children FORTY!!! My mom has been giving me crap about it, I finally gave in and said fine but the more I have thought about it the more anxiety it gives me... I know it might hurt feelings but my lord.... I'm really thinking about just eloping and saying to hell with it. I thought it was supposed to be my day, but how can it be when I am lectured at every turn for a decision I want to make?!?! My dream is to get married on a decent Hike up a mountain, it seems like it isn't going to happen. >.> I am in the same boat sister.
- Reply
Master September 2020
Jessica · on June 2, 2019 at 1:30 PM
Flag

Hide content
As a parent of young kids I completely understand why some people choose not to include children. In my mind, invitations go out with plenty of notice to get a babysitter. It depends on the type of ceremony and reception you are having too, my kids would never sit still through a full catholic ceremony for example, and they would be miserable at a super formal reception (and I would probably be uncomfortable having them at a reception with a lot of drinking). I feel like if I attended a wedding with my kids I would just have to accept I might miss important moments and will likely have to leave early because they wouldn’t like the food or would get too bored or tired and grumpy. I hope you stick to your guns, it’s your day and your choice. Including your own children as part of the wedding party does not require you to open your wedding up to all children.
- Reply
Legend June 2019
Melle · on June 2, 2019 at 1:52 PM
Flag

Hide content
Parents can be either really helpful or really not helpful during this time. I cannot tell you how many times I've has to repeat things to both sets of parents, really.
I hear you about not having kids there. They're expensive in the sense that it's a lot per meal and they barely really even eat and can be really disruptive sometimes.
I do know it could be really hard to find childcare as some of my friends have kids and they were trying to find a sitter but ultimately couldn't and ended up rsvping with their kids. Which is ok because I allowed kids at mine but I totally understand when others don't.
- Reply

Savvy August 2019
Stephanie · on June 2, 2019 at 9:12 PM
Flag

Hide content
Stick to your gut. I am going thru the same thing but with my fh sisters not the parents. They want to know why my kids are going but none of theirs can’t.
- Reply