my brother giving me away

I got married in the ICU days before my father passed away. Like 4 days before. We are having our ceremony as planned in March (date twins!) My brothers will be walking me down the aisle. If he is that sick, please consider getting married in a small private ceremony sooner than that. I have no regrets doing that for my father. It was the last item on his bucket list.

May I ask what sort of illness your father has that is preventing him from attending - Would it still be possible to do a father-daughter dance with him at home and have it recorded and then played at the reception (or is his illness preventing him from physically being able to do this)? Your father doesn't have to present in order to receive a gift from you, so you can still give him a gift it is important for you to give him one. As for your brother walking you down the aisle, maybe make a note in the wedding program that, due to an illness that is preventing his attendance, your brother is doing the honor of walking you down the aisle in his stead.

So sorry about your dad being ill! That's really sweet that your brother will be walking you down the aisle! Maybe you guys can do a brother sister dance and have it in honor of your father. Dedicate a special song to him or something, and you can still give him his father of the bride gift! I think that would be sweet!

Susan, I just saw your comment!! So sorry your father passed away! I cannot imagine how hard that would be! Praying for you and your family! And, Amanda, praying for your father as well!!

It was a roller coaster of emotions to say the least. I miss him very much, but I cried so much in the weeks up to it knowing he was dying. It was very hard to see him like that. I am glad we did it, just us and our minister, with about 10 others, so 13 total people, oh and the FG. My closest friends and family. It was perfect for being the imperfect wedding.

My father has suffered 3 strokes and a heart attack in the past year. Last week he had surgery on his legs and is refusing rehab to ever walk again. So no chance of dancing. And it took a lot of arm twisting to get my brother to walk me down the aisle so I guess a dance is out of the question. I'm at such a loss of what to do. My fiance is dancing with his mother. I guess I will haven to sit out the parents dancing part. We dont know if he will die soon, but my fiance is military and won't be here until right before the wedding so no way to do a ceremony before the 21st

I'm so sorry about your dad! I agree you shouldn't let this keep him from being a part of your wedding. You could also do a video of him giving you away or giving a toast. I'm so sorry hun!

Could he attend the ceremony in a wheelchair and be pushed down the aisle by your brother? That was our plan if dad was unable to walk down the aisle.

Skype is another option too.

I'm not sure what your relationship is like with your mom, but you could always do a dance with her. It's not the traditional dance the bride gets, but at least you'd still get to dance with a parent.

There are a few things you can do if you still want him included. Go visit him and let him see you in your dress! You can put his picture in a locket on your bouquet so he's still there walking with you in a waysince you know that's where he would want to be. You can do a mother daughter dance or a dance with your brother. And you can still give him a gift. In a situation like this something sentimental will probably mean the most to him.

I know nothing anybody suggests can really make this all better but I wish you all best!

My issue isn't really in how to honor my dad because as cruel as this is I don't care that he won't be there. I just want to know how to avoid the "poor you your dad isn't here"