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Laura
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My brother died

Laura, on April 9, 2020 at 7:05 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 38
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My brother suddenly died a few days ago and i'm crushed. It wasn't from Covid 19, he'd been in ill health for years, but it wasn't expected. He'd previously had at least 7 heart attacks and at least 6 strokes. I say at least because he'd have mini ones of both and after awhile the number gets away from you.

I can't explain the grief. If you've lost a sibling you have some understanding. It's hard because he and I had lost our parents three years apart when we were teenagers back in the 80's so it had been Mike and I against the world since. We were each other's biggest cheerleaders but we also would tell each other the truth without sugar coating it.

Was he perfect? No, but he was a good guy. He loved his wife, his two adult kids and his one year old grandson. i'm lost. I'm not sure how I would have handled my wedding if it had happened now. I'm really grateful he was able to be there. He was frail, but he was there. He was only 3 years older than me, but people thought he was my dad because of his white hair and beard. I will go on, I always have when I lose people. This one is just hard. i'm broken



My brother and I at my wedding last October 19th

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Latest activity by Elisa, on April 21, 2020 at 11:45 AM
  • VIP November 2021
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    I am so sorry for your loss 馃挍
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  • Chasity
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    Chasity
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    Sorry for your loss 馃挃馃檹馃徑
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  • Kimberly
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    Kimberly Online
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    Awwww I鈥檓 so sorry for your loss.
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  • Alisha
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    Alisha
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    I am sorry for your loss.

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  • Nandi
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    Nandi
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    So sorry for your loss 馃挏馃挏馃挏
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  • Kirsten
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    Kirsten
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    I'm sorry for your loss, but I'm so glad he was able to be there with you on your day. 鉂
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  • Kirsten
    Devoted October 2020
    Kirsten
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    Let me re-say... AND I'm glad he was there with you. Not but.
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    Veronica
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    I'm so very sorry for your loss.

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  • Erin
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    Erin
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    I'm sorry for your loss. I'm glad he was able to be there for your wedding. He sounds like he was a special guy. Sending hugs your way.

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  • Cyndy
    Rockstar May 2019
    Cyndy
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    I鈥檓 so sorry for your loss and happy he was able to be there for your special day.
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  • Melle
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    Melle Online
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    My sincere condolences to you and your family
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  • Nicole
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    Nicole
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    Laura, my deepest condolences to you. I'm glad you have the memory of your brother with you at your wedding.

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  • Anna
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    Anna
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    Aww I鈥檓 so sorry for your loss.

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    Andrea
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    I鈥檓 sorry for your loss
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  • Marissa
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    Marissa
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    So sorry for you loss 馃挄 You are in my prayers.
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle
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    I鈥檓 so extremely sorry for your loss. I understand your pain... My sister passed away a year ago after battling pancreatic cancer. She was only 43. It鈥檚 not easy but it will get better eventually. When I look at your bouquet and your brother鈥檚 sweatshirt, it makes me smile because purple is the ribbon color for pancreatic cancer 馃挏. I never fully believed when people said 鈥淵ou鈥檒l always have the memories鈥. But now I know it鈥檚 true. And just like your story and pic brought up nice memories of my sister, you鈥檒l have many days with memories of your brother in the same way. It鈥檚 great that your brother was able to attend your wedding. Unfortunately my sister died exactly a month after FH proposed. I pray that you eventually find peace amongst the grief.
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    I was not raised to believe in a " he is risen from the dead" kind of afterlife. Rather, that as long as someone is here, alive, who remembers a person with loving or friendly thoughts, that person's spirit lives on. You have always thought Mike an anchor in your life. Loving g, supporting e family, good times and bad times. Who in spite of long ill health, completed his most important tasks, raising wonderful children, being your brother when you needed one, a caring person. And when you get past the immediate sadness of loss, you will see that he is still alive, in you, his grown kids, and his grandson, as long as you remember him fondly, for how he touched your lives. Don't block out all the thoughts. You will actively miss him less over time as you realize you carry him with you all the time in your heart, in your mind. He still lives. Talk about your memories. Love him still. Keep him alive, for you, your nephews, and his grandson. You will all be better for it. I am so sorry for all your hurt. Knowing it was coming still is little help for such a feeling of loss. Just get through the coming days. And hold him close. And he still lives on .
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
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    Pirate & 60s Bride
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    So sorry, Laura! Glad he made it to your wedding to share that time together.
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  • Ayona
    Just Said Yes January 2021
    Ayona
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    So sorry for your loss, I'm very close to my brother I love him very much. He's not perfect but he lives a hard life. I'd try to help him but he's stubborn. I just hope not to lose him.
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  • Samantha
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    I鈥檓 so sorry. My heart breaks for you. I lost my smart, funny, generous brother at age 30 a few years ago and am still devastated by the loss. But it does get better.
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