My bridesmaid bailed... advice?

That's her opinion and you should reevaluate your relationship with her. You have plenty time to replace her. Don't feel hurt. It will only stunt your progress.

I don't even know if I want her at the wedding now.... but i also don't want to lose a good friend. (Side note: I HATE confrontation.)

Don't replace her! If you're worried about your relationship with her, that will make it worse. Focus on your friendship. Your wedding should not be the priority here.

Maybe see if she's still interested in a couple months. Typically you ask 6-8 months out, anyhow.

Please don't replace her! It will make the replacement feel terrible.

See if you can salvage a friendship or figure out what went wrong. If you can't, move on. Sometimes friends weren't meant to be in our lives forever.

Maybe your friend realized she couldn't take on the roll of being a BM because she just can't afford it at the moment and feels embarrassed to tell you? Have you tried calling her at all? I'd give her sometime and just focus on your friendship and just let her know you'll be there for her in anyway you can.

You also asked her to be in the wedding way to early. I lot can change between now and the wedding. Please don't replace her just give her time and see what happens.

She took herself out of the wedding right?

Yes she removed herself. And I did ask my girls early however my fiance and I have a lot going on in our personal lives right now. We wanted to get an early jump on things.

You asked too early (and she answered too quickly. BTW, she didn't bail, she merely took the time to reflect on the responsibility and then came to a decision that worked for her) -- regardless of what's going on in your personal lives (we all have intense stuff going on in our personal lives -- just ask, lol), that's really no reason to get a jump on the honor attendants (maybe the venue, but not the attendants). Anyway....

The good news is that she told you the truth, and she did so long before your wedding, dress shopping, bouquet ordering, etc. So, you can get mad and not invite her to the wedding (which is the equivalent of a death knell to the friendship), or you can invite her and her husband/wife/SO/Plus One and treat them as honored guests.

Just out of curiosity, did you ask her privately, or did you ask her with a BM proposal box?

Omg a date twin! Finally! I'm so very sorry this happened. I would def still invite her to the wedding, but if she declines your invite to the wedding for a trivial reason maybe then you should reevaluate the friendship and or have a talk with her.

I asked each girl privately, and seperately. Its not like i asked and she said no. I asked her and she said yes. Now she has changed her mind. And i do want her there... when she told me she didnt want to be in the wedding anymore, i accepted and it moved on. She now is not talking to me.... any time i call, message or see her... she ignores me.

Don't feel bad..my own sister drop out My wedding party.for whatever reason. She can be replaced really fast..no sweat

Omg really hannah?

Maybe she's embarrassed? I'd send her an invitation, but that's me. Do you want her to be a part of your life after you're married? Listen, if she declines, you've done all you can. At that point, I'd call it a parting of the ways, but maybe, just maybe, there's a chance for a renewed friendship beyond the wedding? Is there any chance that money is an issue? Is there any chanced that her SO doesn't want her to be a BM (I know...it's sad, but it does happen)?I know this is awkward, but the older I get, the more I realize, we all need all the real friends we can get in this life.

It's totally your call, OP.

@Danielle.... you're replacing your own sister? Wow.

Really about being date twins.....? Yes! Cinco de mayo wedding!

I'd reevaluate the friendship. Her actions are extremely rude and inconsiderate... not a friend

I've had to replace my original MOH. The last several months (since February) I was treated like garbage. So I decided to replace my MOH.

Bye Felicia!

OMG, it's nice that you all have replaceable and interchangeable friends. *eye roll*

@OP-it sounds as though something is going on with your friend. Keep trying to reach out and see what's going on. Sometimes we inadvertently lose track of our goings on with our friends.

Getting an "early jump on things" is finding all your vendors and stuff booked and done, not asking your BMs too early.

Also, you have 9 months to go. She didn't "bail". Bailing would be like the month of the wedding.

Stop worrying about the BM/wedding aspect and start focusing on the friendship and why she's ignoring you.